escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Only when you're ugly.escaleraroyal said:why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number?
It's how you approach that makes it creepy. You don't ask for the number before talking to her. It must be very non-chalant like it's a part of the conversation.escaleraroyal said:why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
Dont be so mean LOLvatoloco said:Only when you're ugly.
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some times girls are intimidated by average joes with so much confidence , they can only explain it by him being weird. if you dressed liek a goth dude , no mater what your gonnabe creepy , to all but goth girlsIn2theGame said:Dont be so mean LOL
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No, I'm serious. Nowadays, if you cold approach girls who don't dig you (i.e., they don't find you physically attractive, you are "ugly" to them) you will be labeled a "creeper," etc. Do you think they'd label a high-status, physically-attractive male (like Clooney or Pitt) a creeper for cold approaching them? *shakes Magic 8-Ball* "My sources say no."In2theGame said:Dont be so mean LOLvatoloco said:Only when you're ugly.![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.