"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are Traditional Dating Sites Dead?

Roober

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It's a catch 22 since the gym's are closed so you can only do home exercises. Wealth could be limited depending on what industry you are in.
What I think is the pandemic can be good if you are relationship oriented and want to have a gf. I've noticed more and more people would rather settle down with someone and have some sense of stability rather than jumping from person to person and risk getting sick during the pandemic. Plus this pandemic has girls that are willing to put more focus and effort on a person due to limited and risky prospects.

Bumble and OKC has different categories for what you're looking for(casual, short term, long term, relationship, etc). I noticed a big decline in all categories other than relationships in my area at least from last year.
This is wrong on so many levels...

You mind, body, and wealth are prime targets for growth during this pandemic. The only limitations to these is the man between your ears.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If I were single, I think the pandemic is a great time for men to focus on their mind,body, and wealth. Dating right now seems a bit dicey, maybe not even worth the time spent trying?
The primary focus of men is as you said, it has been the primary focus since ancient times and into the future will continue to be the primary focus of all successful men.

These are the men who will have women chasing after them.

After all, it is the primary focus of women since ancient times and will be so into the future.

It is the man, who constantly yearns for women who will constantly fails with women because he has neglected the cardinal rule of being a man.
 

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This is wrong on so many levels...

You mind, body, and wealth are prime targets for growth during this pandemic. The only limitations to these is the man between your ears.
I think I might've communicated this poorly and you might've misunderstood me.

I agree with you that this pandemic is a chance to work on yourself. However, it can be limiting with Covid to fully maximize yourself in certain areas due to the closures and downturn in some industries. Like if you don't have a good home gym, it's going to be a challenge to maximize your body with gyms being closed. It can definitely be done but just harder than before. If you want to work on your wealth but only have expertise in some areas, those areas might be the areas in a downturn during the pandemic too. Once again not a show stopper but just presents additional challenges.

My second point was just observations in the OLD space during the pandemic and nothing more.

The two points were not related to each other nor meant to imply that one affected the other.
 

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I feel like dating apps have always been pretty terrible, but especially the last few years. I forced myself to get off of them a couple years ago
 

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There’s only so many fat single moms/feminists/blobs that have a long list of requirements on their bios that could I take
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There’s only so many fat single moms/feminists/blobs that have a long list of requirements on their bios that could I take
I've never dated a fat single mom/feminist/blob off a dating site...guess you have issues getting others interested in you. Maybe you should figure out why?
 

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Patently false. The theories and logic people come up with and spout off as truths are just shockingly out of touch with reality in regards to dating apps most times. Sorry, this has not been my experience or most other people who regularly use dating apps experience. Only the people who use them here and there and then say they don't work because they might not get any responses or limited responses. They are also likely the ones who send boring messages or have nothing to say that is interesting in either their message or profile(and YES they do read profiles...I put a question for them to answer at the end of the profile and more than half send me their answer to this in the first message unprompted.)

I can promise you that if I message 15-20 women in any given morning that I will have at least 3-5 phone numbers by the end of the day and could have set up dates with pretty much all of them for later in the week. And they aren't going to flake.
Putting a question at the end of your profile huh?...Not a bad idea...
 
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