"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are these the reasons why dating was so much better for men in the '50s?

MatureDJ

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I was lurking at the Incel site - yes, I understand that such folks are considered below the folks here - and there was a good post about this:

https://incels.me/threads/ultimate-mega-proof-how-hypergamy-was-none-in-existent-in-the-1950s.45295/

There are NUMEROUS reasons why hypergamy was low/non-existent back then, and why inceldom was far less of a problem than now:
  • Mass die off of men in a world war, increased competition between women to find ANY man still alive
  • Shaming of sex before marriage, strictly enforced societal monogamy
  • No social media, more realistic expectations among women
  • Women not a significant part of the workforce, and REQUIRE a man in order to start a family
In 2018, all of these points are at a complete opposite:
  • Male birth rate is 1.05 boys to 1 girls. Men outnumber women significantly until it evens out in later life due to earlier male mortality / accidental deaths etc. During prime reproductive years, there are more men than women.
  • Sex before marriage not just not shamed, but actively celebrated and recommended. Women told to "date around" before settling down. Dating around means dating the top 10 or 20% of men and ignoring the rest, until they settle in their 30s.
  • Social media. This has been such a devastating WRECKING BALL I don't even need to explain. But every woman now has access to thousands of tens of thousands of men nearby with almost no effort required.
  • Women all work now and don't require men for their financial resources. The main mechanism by which men could "improve" their value to women has been more or less made obsolete.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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Those are all good points, plus the approval of the birth control pill in 1960 brought in a lot of changes.
I didn't know there was an incel site though, you learn something every day.
 
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