"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Are these texts bad, or am i overreacting?

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Been on 3 dates. Great sex twice. She makes veiled suggestions about how we should be exclusive, etc.

Last saw her unplanned on Monday night.

Couple texts during week.

I text her Thursday morning. She texts me back a paragraph and ends it "I have to tell you the whole story later"

I text back "oh? Tell me tomorrow night." Thinking that it was a smooth way of asking her out.

So fvck--- I get really drunk while out and I send one more text - just a ? Mark----- AT 1 AM!!

So question:

Was my text about tell me tomorrow night clear that I wanted to see her? I wonder because she's usually enthusiastic to see me but this time she didn't respond at all. Almost wondering if it was too passive.

And 2 - did I **** up with the ? Mark and how do I recover?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she's into you the way you make it seem, don't think you ruined the booty call. Just step back before you send another '?' Lol. Put a lock on your phone that your drunk self can't figure out.
 
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Stop texting.
Seriously, why can't you call?

Then you might have gotten the whole story. Then maybe you could have asked her out again. Then maybe you wouldn't be on the forum asking how to communicate with people in real life, or wondering if your text came off the wrong way.

If I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with work, a friendly text can seem like a burden on me. If someone calls when I'm in a similar situation, and they say "Hello! How are you today?" I brighten up and I'm more receptive.
 
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CaConfused

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CaptCommando said:
If she's into you the way you make it seem, don't think you ruined the booty call. Just step back before you send another '?' Lol. Put a lock on your phone that your drunk self can't figure out.
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Yeah my buddy and I were laughing about that. I think they have an app for that. (Seriously)

But she hasn't responded to either text, so I'm at a loss at what to think. Do I just sit back and wait?
 
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pinkfl said:
Stop texting.
Seriously, why can't you call?

Then you might have gotten the whole story. Then maybe you could have asked her out again. Then maybe you wouldn't be on the forum asking how to communicate with people in real life, or wondering if your text came off the wrong way.

If I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with work, a friendly text can seem like a burden on me. If someone calls when I'm in a similar situation, and they say "Hello! How are you today?" I brighten up and I'm more receptive.
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Because we're both at work at the time and she volunteers in the evening. Her text that I replied to did not seem to be in a bad mood.
 

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Well, just got my answer from her and its a weird one, especially since she waited a whole day to let me know if we're going out tonight.

"Sorry I have been busy. I have to work tomorrow so I'm staying in tonight & going to bed early."

No alternate offer.

Guess I'll just reply with a "No prob - have a good night."
 
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CaConfused said:
"Sorry I have been busy. I have to work tomorrow so I'm staying in tonight & going to bed early."
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Easy come, easy go.
 
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Yeah. Don't think she liked the text. Think I'm gonna NC and let it breathe unless you guiys have better idea. My first inkling was to ask her when shes free, but maybe it would look needy.
 
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