"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are these texts bad, or am i overreacting?

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CaConfused

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Been on 3 dates. Great sex twice. She makes veiled suggestions about how we should be exclusive, etc.

Last saw her unplanned on Monday night.

Couple texts during week.

I text her Thursday morning. She texts me back a paragraph and ends it "I have to tell you the whole story later"

I text back "oh? Tell me tomorrow night." Thinking that it was a smooth way of asking her out.

So fvck--- I get really drunk while out and I send one more text - just a ? Mark----- AT 1 AM!!

So question:

Was my text about tell me tomorrow night clear that I wanted to see her? I wonder because she's usually enthusiastic to see me but this time she didn't respond at all. Almost wondering if it was too passive.

And 2 - did I **** up with the ? Mark and how do I recover?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she's into you the way you make it seem, don't think you ruined the booty call. Just step back before you send another '?' Lol. Put a lock on your phone that your drunk self can't figure out.
 
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Stop texting.
Seriously, why can't you call?

Then you might have gotten the whole story. Then maybe you could have asked her out again. Then maybe you wouldn't be on the forum asking how to communicate with people in real life, or wondering if your text came off the wrong way.

If I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with work, a friendly text can seem like a burden on me. If someone calls when I'm in a similar situation, and they say "Hello! How are you today?" I brighten up and I'm more receptive.
 
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CaptCommando said:
If she's into you the way you make it seem, don't think you ruined the booty call. Just step back before you send another '?' Lol. Put a lock on your phone that your drunk self can't figure out.
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Yeah my buddy and I were laughing about that. I think they have an app for that. (Seriously)

But she hasn't responded to either text, so I'm at a loss at what to think. Do I just sit back and wait?
 
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pinkfl said:
Stop texting.
Seriously, why can't you call?

Then you might have gotten the whole story. Then maybe you could have asked her out again. Then maybe you wouldn't be on the forum asking how to communicate with people in real life, or wondering if your text came off the wrong way.

If I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with work, a friendly text can seem like a burden on me. If someone calls when I'm in a similar situation, and they say "Hello! How are you today?" I brighten up and I'm more receptive.
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Because we're both at work at the time and she volunteers in the evening. Her text that I replied to did not seem to be in a bad mood.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, just got my answer from her and its a weird one, especially since she waited a whole day to let me know if we're going out tonight.

"Sorry I have been busy. I have to work tomorrow so I'm staying in tonight & going to bed early."

No alternate offer.

Guess I'll just reply with a "No prob - have a good night."
 
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CaConfused said:
"Sorry I have been busy. I have to work tomorrow so I'm staying in tonight & going to bed early."
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Easy come, easy go.
 
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Yeah. Don't think she liked the text. Think I'm gonna NC and let it breathe unless you guiys have better idea. My first inkling was to ask her when shes free, but maybe it would look needy.
 
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