Are there any married couples with kids who are actually happy and have sex??

[bigdave17]

every married couple with kids seems miserable as hell and has sex once a month it seems like

What's the deal with this? Why does women's sex drive completely go to sh*t after marriage and kids?

Any guys here who are happy being single but want to get married and have kids at some point, how do you deal with the impending fears that marriage will cause misery?

 

[way2smart]

every married couple with kids seems miserable as hell and has sex once a month it seems like

What's the deal with this? Why does women's sex drive completely go to sh*t after marriage and kids?

Any guys here who are happy being single but want to get married and have kids at some point, how do you deal with the impending fears that marriage will cause misery?

My best friend has 2 kids and is married. He is a natural Alpha, he doesn't even know sosuave exists.
He regularly has sex, his wife sh*it tests him once in a while and he always wins. This is the most important part, as long as you keep passing her sh*it tests you will continue to have a great sex life.

 

[bigdave17]

My best friend has 2 kids and is married. He is a natural Alpha, he doesn't even know sosuave exists.
He regularly has sex, his wife sh*it tests him once in a while and he always wins. This is the most important part, as long as you keep passing her sh*it tests you will continue to have a great sex life.

interesting. I wonder how frequent this is

 

[The Diver]

If you want to have a successful healthy LTR or Marriage, and at the same time maintaining a reasonable good sex life, you constantly have to be on guard, maintaining your dominance across the board:

Physically--No bearbally , go soft, or overweight,,,
Mentally -- Your inner self: confidence,assertiveness,leadership,,,,, and more.
Emotionally -- You are the ROCK of the family, nothing can break you down.
Financially-- The provider for the family.

which in turn, will maintain your attractiveness, which in turn will maintain a healthy relationship.(including good sex life)
It actually sad that you never can really "relax" and "Be Yourself " , but if you start fail her s**t tests, , go sloppy, and not picking up yourself quickly, even after years, it's usually the beginning of the end.

 

[lizardking82]

As you grow more experienced, you learn to avoid most **** tests by shrugging them off like they're nothing, like she's being silly (which she is). No man should live under the fear and tension of possibly failing a **** test LOL

 

[The Diver]

As you grow more experienced, you learn to avoid most **** tests by shrugging them off like they're nothing, like she's being silly (which she is). No man should live under the fear and tension of possibly failing a **** test LOL

Yes of course,no one suggest to live in fear,it's silly, but you can deflect s88t test only from a position of power not weakness.
When I said to be "on guard", I meant to be on guard on Yourself, not your woman.
Gurd yourself, that you're always top notch in all aspect.

For example: If, for some reason, the man lost his job, sitting at home depressed, maybe even drunk ,knowing he is not anymore the main provider for the family, his ego and his confidence hit hard, inevitably, he will lose his woman's respect . The woman become the main bread earner in the family, in this case, she's almost always take the control on the relationship, and inevitably on the sex frequency. (The OP main question)
From a position of weakness you'll have no control on the relationship , and you'll not be able to deflect any s**t test.

 

[marmel75]

I have sex all the time...3 or 4 times a week

These ridiculous generalizations you keep making are silly.

 

[bigdave17]

I have sex all the time...3 or 4 times a week

These ridiculous generalizations you keep making are silly.

you married with kids?

 

[marmel75]

you married with kids?

Yup. 12 years now.

 

[bigdave17]

Yup. 12 years now.

what's your secret? Every married guy I talk to has zero sex and is miserable

 

[marmel75]

what's your secret? Every married guy I talk to has zero sex and is miserable

Isn't much of a secret...I keep my testosterone levels high. And my wife knows if I'm not getting it from her I can and will get it elsewhere.

Most of the time its rough, sh!t talking sex and she loves it...

 

[bigdave17]

If you want to have a successful healthy LTR or Marriage, and at the same time maintaining a reasonable good sex life, you constantly have to be on guard, maintaining your dominance across the board:

Physically--No bearbally , go soft, or overweight,,,
Mentally -- Your inner self: confidence,assertiveness,leadership,,,,, and more.
Emotionally -- You are the ROCK of the family, nothing can break you down.
Financially-- The provider for the family.

which in turn, will maintain your attractiveness, which in turn will maintain a healthy relationship.(including good sex life)
It actually sad that you never can really "relax" and "Be Yourself " , but if you start fail her s**t tests, , go sloppy, and not picking up yourself quickly, even after years, it's usually the beginning of the end.

I like this post

I fit those traits now, I plan on being like that forever but I do disagree with you on 1 thing - the goal is "to be yourself" but still fit those traits by conditioning yourself to fit those traits naturally

 

[The Diver]

Isn't much of a secret...I keep my testosterone levels high. And my wife knows if I'm not getting it from her I can and will get it elsewhere.
Most of the time its rough, sh!t talking sex and she loves it...

You having 3-4 times sex a week because you're doing exactly what I mention in my "generalized " post: You are maintaining your dominance, control, and the dynamic in your relationship/marriage. If you have been a loser door mate you would have get fvcking nothing.

 

[RangerMIke]

My cousin... Married 23 years, same woman. They have 8 kids ranging in ages 20 to 8. He is a well to do business owner with two successful businesses, and lives in a large home in New Orleans. He runs the household with an strong steady hand... he does what he wants and his wife does not try to stop him. He would rather die than cheat on her, and she would be lost without him.

Jack runs his life and family the way he wants... and anyone that tries to criticize him and get in his way he mercilessly cuts them out of his life. His wife will not talk to her parents because Jack refuses to allow it. His in-laws made the mistake about 20 years ago of trying to interfere in his marriage and how his children would be raised and he cut them off forever... no reprieve. He cut off his brother, who he says is weak and takes advantage of his mother (which is true).

You can be in Jack's life, but it is on HIS terms. He is a conservative Catholic, and I am a Libertarian agnostic... and we get along great because we respect each other's journey through life. Just don't try to tell him how to live and he's one of the best people I know.