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tj
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on this forum?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MaTuA
Don Juan
No. At least not me.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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tj
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I am, and was curious if there were others.azanon said:Why you ask?
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Rollo is married
I'm married too, but I'm still not sure what relevance it has to the subject here. You can use some of the exact same techniques and mindsets to enhance your marriage that you would in the single life. I think Rollo would agree.tj said:I am, and was curious if there were others.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
I wasn't when I joined this forum over 5 and half years ago. I learned a lot of things here, but of course made little progress until I actually grew a pair and started approaching. I was dating 2-3 other women when i started seeing the woman who is now my wife. I can honestly say i never would have dated her if not for this site as I was too big of a wimp to approach women.
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
Heretolearn
Master Don Juan
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Awesome, congratulations!!!CGE333 said:I wasn't when I joined this forum over 5 and half years ago. I learned a lot of things here, but of course made little progress until I actually grew a pair and started approaching. I was dating 2-3 other women when i started seeing the woman who is now my wife. I can honestly say i never would have dated her if not for this site as I was too big of a wimp to approach women.
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.