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tj
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on this forum?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MaTuA
Don Juan
No. At least not me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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tj
Guest
I am, and was curious if there were others.azanon said:Why you ask?
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Rollo is married
I'm married too, but I'm still not sure what relevance it has to the subject here. You can use some of the exact same techniques and mindsets to enhance your marriage that you would in the single life. I think Rollo would agree.tj said:I am, and was curious if there were others.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
I wasn't when I joined this forum over 5 and half years ago. I learned a lot of things here, but of course made little progress until I actually grew a pair and started approaching. I was dating 2-3 other women when i started seeing the woman who is now my wife. I can honestly say i never would have dated her if not for this site as I was too big of a wimp to approach women.
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
Heretolearn
Master Don Juan
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Awesome, congratulations!!!CGE333 said:I wasn't when I joined this forum over 5 and half years ago. I learned a lot of things here, but of course made little progress until I actually grew a pair and started approaching. I was dating 2-3 other women when i started seeing the woman who is now my wife. I can honestly say i never would have dated her if not for this site as I was too big of a wimp to approach women.
On a side note, our first kid (a son) was born 2 days ago (Saturday, Nov. 29th).
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.