"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are spinsters just deluding themselves by shaming marriage?

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http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/...he-politics-of-the-single-by-choice-movement/

At 38, I feel more powerful and sexier and in control than I have ever felt…My life is a best-kept secret, and I wouldn’t trade it. As a single person, the world is my oyster. I’m just sorry that people who are married don’t have that freedom.
Is it really that spinsters are unhappy, but delude themselves that they have all this "freedom" - and feel the need to shame happily married couples?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dear MDJ,
If she is spinning Plates,then she can have great life at any age...I quite agree with her point of view here,and think it ties in neatly,with the thread on this topic currently running.
 

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dear MDJ,
Are you making some Freudian slip here? Your question seems to imply that Marriage should be the ultimate objective of all Women,that is contra-intuitive to a DJ's Philosophy isn't it?
 

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Scaramouche said:
dear MDJ,
Are you making some Freudian slip here? Your question seems to imply that Marriage should be the ultimate objective of all Women,that is contra-intuitive to a DJ's Philosophy isn't it?

I think the point the OP was making perhaps, that he didnt articulate precisely, is that this woman has actively rejected the marriage/partnership world, and she should know that her options are limited on the marriage front, and that she is trying to perhaps talk her self into the belief that life is better single than married rather than accept that through her own coquette-ish behaviour, she has arrived at a place where she is now unable to be accepted as a bride, and to settle down in to married/maternal domesticity.

In other words, shes only fit for pumpdump with a bad looking chump.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TonyBaloney said:
I think the point the OP was making perhaps, that he didnt articulate precisely, is that this woman has actively rejected the marriage/partnership world, and she should know that her options are limited on the marriage front, and that she is trying to perhaps talk her self into the belief that life is better single than married rather than accept that through her own coquette-ish behaviour, she has arrived at a place where she is now unable to be accepted as a bride, and to settle down in to married/maternal domesticity.

In other words, shes only fit for pumpdump with a bad looking chump.
BINGO! :up:
 

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Single by choice.

Necessity, meet virtue.
 
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