"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are spinsters just deluding themselves by shaming marriage?

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http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/...he-politics-of-the-single-by-choice-movement/

At 38, I feel more powerful and sexier and in control than I have ever felt…My life is a best-kept secret, and I wouldn’t trade it. As a single person, the world is my oyster. I’m just sorry that people who are married don’t have that freedom.
Is it really that spinsters are unhappy, but delude themselves that they have all this "freedom" - and feel the need to shame happily married couples?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dear MDJ,
If she is spinning Plates,then she can have great life at any age...I quite agree with her point of view here,and think it ties in neatly,with the thread on this topic currently running.
 

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dear MDJ,
Are you making some Freudian slip here? Your question seems to imply that Marriage should be the ultimate objective of all Women,that is contra-intuitive to a DJ's Philosophy isn't it?
 

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Scaramouche said:
dear MDJ,
Are you making some Freudian slip here? Your question seems to imply that Marriage should be the ultimate objective of all Women,that is contra-intuitive to a DJ's Philosophy isn't it?

I think the point the OP was making perhaps, that he didnt articulate precisely, is that this woman has actively rejected the marriage/partnership world, and she should know that her options are limited on the marriage front, and that she is trying to perhaps talk her self into the belief that life is better single than married rather than accept that through her own coquette-ish behaviour, she has arrived at a place where she is now unable to be accepted as a bride, and to settle down in to married/maternal domesticity.

In other words, shes only fit for pumpdump with a bad looking chump.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TonyBaloney said:
I think the point the OP was making perhaps, that he didnt articulate precisely, is that this woman has actively rejected the marriage/partnership world, and she should know that her options are limited on the marriage front, and that she is trying to perhaps talk her self into the belief that life is better single than married rather than accept that through her own coquette-ish behaviour, she has arrived at a place where she is now unable to be accepted as a bride, and to settle down in to married/maternal domesticity.

In other words, shes only fit for pumpdump with a bad looking chump.
BINGO! :up:
 

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Necessity, meet virtue.
 
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