In all ways and situations I mean. Not just with dating and women. Why is it some people always seem to have something to do,and some are at home more than they should be? Maybe its partially because for me its always work then home.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Are some people just more or less natrually social than others?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LostAndConfused
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Being social doesn't mean that you go out alot.
But yeah some people are naturally more reserved or just less social than others.
But yeah some people are naturally more reserved or just less social than others.
LostAndConfused
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...wait what?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Some people are naturally more social, but if you aren't it doesn't mean you can't change.
Introverts are naturally more sensative. However you can desensatiza yourself to any situation by exposing yourself to it.
Introverts are naturally more sensative. However you can desensatiza yourself to any situation by exposing yourself to it.
Some kids were very outgoing, they participated in clubs, sports, parties, exposed to many many social situations. They are social experienced.
Kids like me, were very shy growing up, stayed home and played computer games. A lot, less social experience. But I went out a lot, just to get social. Now I have the social experience I need.
Kids like me, were very shy growing up, stayed home and played computer games. A lot, less social experience. But I went out a lot, just to get social. Now I have the social experience I need.
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I think everyone has areas they are naturally more confident in than others.
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Yes.
It all has to do with what personality type you are.
Extroverted is being outgoing while introverted is you mostly keep to yourself.
It all has to do with what personality type you are.
Extroverted is being outgoing while introverted is you mostly keep to yourself.
i'm naturally very unsocial but working every day only with people has given boost my confidence and social skills. i've always known that i'm funny etc but i wasn't interested form displaying it around random people. now got no problem with that.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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No.
Everyone is naturally social.
We lived in social groups for 100s of thousands of years. It's genetically built in us to have a predisposition to socialize.
The reason certain people grow up to be less social then others is due to experiences growing up. Being mocked in a group situation and not having a strong emotional safety net to fall back on, etc. People who are more social once they get into adulthood, had the experiences that reflect either being accepted easily into social groups or when rejected had a strong emotional safety net to fall back.
Basically it comes down to conditioning. Using statements like "Oh, he's just not naturally social", to excuse introverted behavior and in thus further engraving this pattern of behavior as not only acceptable in the child's head, but that it's the right behavior. Could be as simple as parent trying to emotional protect their child from "cruel children" who pick on their kid. When the opposite should be happening, the child should be taught to have strong self-confidence and reintroduced to social environments.
Growing up all there lives this way, people view it as being natural. So it's natural to avoid situations which would help you pass on your genes? Yeah, don't think so. Your body exists for the simple reason of being a vessel to pass on your genes. And you can't do that sitting at home playing Halo 3 all day, because you are just naturally introverted.
However once old enough, anyone is capable of turning themselves into a 'social person'. All it takes is recognizing what is wrong with them and then realizing only they have the power to change it.
Everyone is naturally social.
We lived in social groups for 100s of thousands of years. It's genetically built in us to have a predisposition to socialize.
The reason certain people grow up to be less social then others is due to experiences growing up. Being mocked in a group situation and not having a strong emotional safety net to fall back on, etc. People who are more social once they get into adulthood, had the experiences that reflect either being accepted easily into social groups or when rejected had a strong emotional safety net to fall back.
Basically it comes down to conditioning. Using statements like "Oh, he's just not naturally social", to excuse introverted behavior and in thus further engraving this pattern of behavior as not only acceptable in the child's head, but that it's the right behavior. Could be as simple as parent trying to emotional protect their child from "cruel children" who pick on their kid. When the opposite should be happening, the child should be taught to have strong self-confidence and reintroduced to social environments.
Growing up all there lives this way, people view it as being natural. So it's natural to avoid situations which would help you pass on your genes? Yeah, don't think so. Your body exists for the simple reason of being a vessel to pass on your genes. And you can't do that sitting at home playing Halo 3 all day, because you are just naturally introverted.
However once old enough, anyone is capable of turning themselves into a 'social person'. All it takes is recognizing what is wrong with them and then realizing only they have the power to change it.
penkitten
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there will always be one person more of a social butterfly in a group or family than compared to the others.
like a party cant start until they get there, or christmas dinner cant start until they get there...
like a party cant start until they get there, or christmas dinner cant start until they get there...
Introvert and Extrovert are human perceptions and their is debate about whether traits actually exist.
The problem is when studying nature vs nurture scientists are only capable of studying family enviroments when research gives weight to the idea that what happens outside of family time (with friends etc.) has a greater influence over a person
The problem is when studying nature vs nurture scientists are only capable of studying family enviroments when research gives weight to the idea that what happens outside of family time (with friends etc.) has a greater influence over a person