"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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are religious differences a problem?

bookman

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well the question is, have you ever had to break up with someone or had a woman think less of you because you didn't believe in the same religion she believes in?

people around here are religious, I feel that it might be a problem :box:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Don't worry yourself about it. Ignore it and it probably won't come up unless you're getting married/having kids.
 

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I dealt with this issue recently.

As long as you both dont feel strongly about it, its alright if you believe in different things. But if you have strong opinions/convictions - then it can be a problem. Examine your beliefs, how strongly you believe in them, and do the same with her, and make a judgement call.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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bookman said:
well the question is, have you ever had to break up with someone or had a woman think less of you because you didn't believe in the same religion she believes in?

people around here are religious, I feel that it might be a problem :box:

As an atheist let me tell you: F*ck it. Never bring it up. If she brings it up, LIE! At least, if all you wanna do is bone. If you actually want to go somewhere with this chick, its very possible religious differences could be a deal breaker.
 

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Would you mind sharing what your religious views are as well as her religious views?

Secondly, no matter what religion you ascribe to, everyone wants to f*ck. So if you're only seeing her to get some action then this doesn't really matter. But if the two of you are seriously considering pursuing a LTR, then it's best to discuss these things before any further commitments are made.

I personally have this fantasy of f*cking some sexy Mormon chick as she knocks on my door with hopes of converting me. I'm not a religious person but I'm definitely a very horny person!

Take care.
 

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I am an atheist and she's a christian. I don't know any atheist girls s it will always be the case...
Iam looking for a meaningful relationship not simply just sleeping with someone, I think sooner or later it will be a problem
 

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I believe that if it is a similiar religion like maybe Lutheran/Catholic/Christian type it can work. It's when you really mix it up like Christian with a Jew or Muslim, it can be hairy and sometimes a roller coaster ride.

If it is a true mixed like the second listed above, all I can say is "Don't Take It Seriously". It might be something that will come up in the end, if it gets serious. Protect yourself.

Just be careful, I just had an experience not long ago. It crashed and burned. It wasn't just about religion, but also mixed with culture. It didn't work out. I am surprised it lasted so long. Take care out there.
 

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During dating no, unless she strongly disagrees with your atheism. Marriage, yes. Imagine what her parents would do to you when they find out you are an atheist.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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