lizardking82
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How would you call it? Or is it a social construct?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Are relationships natural for humans?
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
Distinguishing between what's "natural" and what isn't is a very poor idea in biology. It's in humans' natures to be social, so by biological definition, a social construct is natural.
mrgoodstuff
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Before you got trained if you had a GF that you where screwing for months, if she went off and had sex with someone else you probably wanted to fight or kill, right? That's the natural feelings.
BeExcellent
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The short answer is Yes.
Humans are social creatures. In an evolutionary sense we developed this way in order to survive. We needed one another to survive, unlike the tiger with his strength, teeth, and claws, unlike the birds with their wings, and unlike the horse with his hooves and speed. We needed two things historically to make it as a species. Brains and each other. And if life weeded out the less intelligent then good deal, only the smarter genes survived to reproduce.
There is some interesting commentary on this very topic in Jordan Peterson's book "12 Rules for Life" which I am currently reading. Human babies are helpless for a long time because the brain is developed preferentially to the body. For babies to survive they need mama to care for them and feed them. For mama and baby to survive they need papa. So we evolved to create families and protect and nurture one another. None of that is news.
What is news in a way is this notion that we don't need anyone. Honestly we don't for we have a society now that has lessened our interdependence on one another. But we are still wired for social order and social interaction, and good relationships are actually good for us. Those in good relationships have better life outcomes than those who are not. There are many studies on this phenomena.
Humans are social creatures. In an evolutionary sense we developed this way in order to survive. We needed one another to survive, unlike the tiger with his strength, teeth, and claws, unlike the birds with their wings, and unlike the horse with his hooves and speed. We needed two things historically to make it as a species. Brains and each other. And if life weeded out the less intelligent then good deal, only the smarter genes survived to reproduce.
There is some interesting commentary on this very topic in Jordan Peterson's book "12 Rules for Life" which I am currently reading. Human babies are helpless for a long time because the brain is developed preferentially to the body. For babies to survive they need mama to care for them and feed them. For mama and baby to survive they need papa. So we evolved to create families and protect and nurture one another. None of that is news.
What is news in a way is this notion that we don't need anyone. Honestly we don't for we have a society now that has lessened our interdependence on one another. But we are still wired for social order and social interaction, and good relationships are actually good for us. Those in good relationships have better life outcomes than those who are not. There are many studies on this phenomena.
Von
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Aristotle: human are political animals
Now the reason why man is more of a political animal than bees or any other gregarious animals is evident. Nature, as we often say, makes nothing in vain, and man is the only animal whom she has endowed with the gift of speech. And whereas mere sound is but an indication of pleasure or pain, and is therefore found in other animals (for their nature attains to the perception of pleasure and pain and the intimation of them to one another, and no further), the power of speech is intended to set forth the expedient and inexpedient, and likewise the just and the unjust. And it is a characteristic of man that he alone has any sense of good and evil, of just and unjust, and the association of living beings who have this sense makes a family and a state.
So yeah: being social is a natural human state... Why? Because we talk beyond those related by our blood
If you talking about "ltr relationship" .. Of course, that how you pass genetics
, create bonds and Marriage is one of the oldest human construct.
Now the reason why man is more of a political animal than bees or any other gregarious animals is evident. Nature, as we often say, makes nothing in vain, and man is the only animal whom she has endowed with the gift of speech. And whereas mere sound is but an indication of pleasure or pain, and is therefore found in other animals (for their nature attains to the perception of pleasure and pain and the intimation of them to one another, and no further), the power of speech is intended to set forth the expedient and inexpedient, and likewise the just and the unjust. And it is a characteristic of man that he alone has any sense of good and evil, of just and unjust, and the association of living beings who have this sense makes a family and a state.
So yeah: being social is a natural human state... Why? Because we talk beyond those related by our blood
If you talking about "ltr relationship" .. Of course, that how you pass genetics
, create bonds and Marriage is one of the oldest human construct."I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
RichardTheFrog
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In paleolithic times, men traded food to women for sex.
For the majority of human history, survival was very hard. People didn't have time for delusions of "love" and all that nonsense.
For the majority of human history, survival was very hard. People didn't have time for delusions of "love" and all that nonsense.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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I’ve pondered this topic before. It’s only natural in the sense that it’s needed/better for child development. Once the kids mature though, it’s unnatural in the sense that there is no real reason to stay. Humans take a really long time to develop though relative to other animals, and when you are with someone or something for such a long time, then it IS natural to form a bond with them.
The problem with the modern culture is that they say that everyone can have a lovey-dovey soulmate simply because it’s happened to others before. But it doesn’t happen to everyone though. The way it’s supposed to be is you two bang or form a marital pact for your legacy, and then over time you guys begin to bond and like each other more. It’s failed expectations that make marriages fail. Before, divorce rates were low because there weren’t really any expectations other than the man providing for his family and his wife giving him sex, providing for the kids (cooking, cleaning, etc.), and nurturing them as well. That was it. But the pairs would oftentimes just start to like each other just because they’ve been around each other for so long. And every once in a while you’d find a couple that REALLY liked each other, which is what society emphasized. And that emphasis soon became the expectation of everyone who was getting married, which obviously was a rare occasion. And that’s why marriages/relationships fail.
The problem with the modern culture is that they say that everyone can have a lovey-dovey soulmate simply because it’s happened to others before. But it doesn’t happen to everyone though. The way it’s supposed to be is you two bang or form a marital pact for your legacy, and then over time you guys begin to bond and like each other more. It’s failed expectations that make marriages fail. Before, divorce rates were low because there weren’t really any expectations other than the man providing for his family and his wife giving him sex, providing for the kids (cooking, cleaning, etc.), and nurturing them as well. That was it. But the pairs would oftentimes just start to like each other just because they’ve been around each other for so long. And every once in a while you’d find a couple that REALLY liked each other, which is what society emphasized. And that emphasis soon became the expectation of everyone who was getting married, which obviously was a rare occasion. And that’s why marriages/relationships fail.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Single men have shorter life expectancies, but single women are the opposite - they live longer.
Another fascinating statistic is that 40% of caregivers to Alzheimer's patients die before their loved one who has Alzheimer's. I just witnessed that happen in my own family. Good relationships are probably good for your health, but bad relationships are almost certainly bad for your health.
Another fascinating statistic is that 40% of caregivers to Alzheimer's patients die before their loved one who has Alzheimer's. I just witnessed that happen in my own family. Good relationships are probably good for your health, but bad relationships are almost certainly bad for your health.
It’s natural to want to connect with a female
It’s natural to want to have sex with a female
It’s natural to want have children with female
But I don’t think it’s ‘natural’ to want a relationship with a female. If you can connect and have sex with a different girl every week, and have children, why do you need a relationship?
Now if females couldn’t get the resources that men could like it was in the 1950s, then it would be natural. It’s perception vs reality.