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Are people open to interracial dating in the south or is it shunned upon?

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A lot of people told me it is shunned upon in those areas, and i would like to date a variety of girls. I am regular black dude who is not into the whole gangsta talk and don't want to be dating girls who are looking for that sort of thing, would I be able to date other races in the south without much trouble? Thanks guys.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i've lived a lot of different places...
i think it depends on where at in the south you're talking about...
i just was visiting a friend who moved to a small town in NC, and i have no doubt that interracial couples would have problems there...
but i don't imagine that more urban areas are that bad...
 

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i grew up in the birmingham alabama area and they were more open to it than right now where i live in the louisville ky area.

it will be 2008 in a few days, people need to wake up and stop obsessing over whether it is ok for other people to date.

if more people dated inter racially, we would weed out certain bad genes that cause some types of cancer and sickle cell. we would be healthier humans.

to heck with other people's opinions when it comes to whom you are attracted to.
 

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Generally, smaller communities are more anal about these things, like race, age, etc. Before moving to Socal I lived in a small city and everyone knew each other from across schools. The gossip I would hear is "wtf Gerry (sophomore) is a loser he hangs out with freshmen," or "Jeremy (junior) is dating Amber (freshman)!"

Where I live now, I see all kinds of races dating each other in all sorts of different ages.
 

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Wonder what the over/under is on the mods killing this thread, and understandibly so.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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nando said:
A lot of people told me it is shunned upon in those areas, and i would like to date a variety of girls. I am regular black dude who is not into the whole gangsta talk and don't want to be dating girls who are looking for that sort of thing, would I be able to date other races in the south without much trouble? Thanks guys.
I would stay away from the south. Especially if you're a minority.
 

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Down here in texas it's not really that bad. In fact i've been seeing a lot more black guy's and white girls together. Of course i've always been preppy so white girls just flock to me. White chicks are sexy as fuuck so thats fine with me. I would take a preppy chick over any "hood, ghetto" chick.
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
Down here in texas it's not really that bad. In fact i've been seeing a lot more black guy's and white girls together. Of course i've always been preppy so white girls just flock to me. White chicks are sexy as fuuck so thats fine with me. I would take a preppy chick over any "hood, ghetto" chick.
are you also black? I hate that 'hood/ghetto' mentality, so I would not get along with those kind of girls either.
 

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thanks for the info so far guys, and why should this thread be closed? It is not insulting any race. This is for civil convo only guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Also as a few black man...i can say...it hasn't been that bad for me, while in the South either....but i go to a uni(Southwest VA) there and most of the kids are from VA Beach and Northern Virginia..but the southern bells still feel me there.
 

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DonJoseCantosie said:
Also as a few black man...i can say...it hasn't been that bad for me, while in the South either....but i go to a uni(Southwest VA) there and most of the kids are from VA Beach and Northern Virginia..but the southern bells still feel me there.
I'm from virginia beach, nigga word UP!
 

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trojanman88 said:
LOL this n igga is ready to get lynched for some white ***** lol hahahaha
LOL! Nah man, I am just attracted to a lot of races, and like diversity in general.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you want to date white girls, don't date them in a hick part of town. I swear, there's Ku Klux Klan people every single place where there isn't any black thugs. It's like James Madison's Large Republic Theory at work.

It's sad but, I'm not trying to be funny. I REPEAT, you will get in BIG TROUBLE in hick-towns if you date a white girl. If you're in a place like Houston or San Antonio, people are gonna give you looks but no one's gonna burn down your house. Just be careful which place you date the white girls bro.

For some reason, not very many people get mad when a black guy dates a latina girl, except maybe crazy latino gangsters. Ironically, those would be the ones I'd worry about more than the other latinos. That's just a generalization, though. I'm sure you'll be just fine =)
 

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Hate to burst everyone's bubble but you can't just worry about the good 'ol boys in the south. A Minnesota state university about an hour north of Minneapolis has been having more than its share of racial based hate crimes.

Even though the town is one of the top 20 most secure midsized cities, they have had a run of problems ranging from Nazi symbols written throughout the campus to a Black teenager who was beaten by a group of White males wearing swastikas. Remember, this is at a place of "higher" learning. :rolleyes:

It doesn't matter what part of the country a person lives. The thing that matters is whether or not there are people around who feel they are a minority and that are afraid of the unknown. The greater the fear, the greater the angst. The angst feeds the anger and well...
 

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The Deacon said:
If you want to date white girls, don't date them in a hick part of town. I swear, there's Ku Klux Klan people every single place where there isn't any black thugs. It's like James Madison's Large Republic Theory at work.

It's sad but, I'm not trying to be funny. I REPEAT, you will get in BIG TROUBLE in hick-towns if you date a white girl. If you're in a place like Houston or San Antonio, people are gonna give you looks but no one's gonna burn down your house. Just be careful which place you date the white girls bro.

For some reason, not very many people get mad when a black guy dates a latina girl, except maybe crazy latino gangsters. Ironically, those would be the ones I'd worry about more than the other latinos. That's just a generalization, though. I'm sure you'll be just fine =)
From my experience, it seems that black guys have more luck with those type of girls that are a bit on the trailer park side department..
 

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I wouls never date a trailer park chick ...YUCK..i live in europe so i get the creme de le creme of white chicks :)
and to most of them it doesnt matter what color...America is to much about race...
 

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The Deacon said:
If you want to date white girls, don't date them in a hick part of town. I swear, there's Ku Klux Klan people every single place where there isn't any black thugs. It's like James Madison's Large Republic Theory at work.

It's sad but, I'm not trying to be funny. I REPEAT, you will get in BIG TROUBLE in hick-towns if you date a white girl. If you're in a place like Houston or San Antonio, people are gonna give you looks but no one's gonna burn down your house. Just be careful which place you date the white girls bro.

For some reason, not very many people get mad when a black guy dates a latina girl, except maybe crazy latino gangsters. Ironically, those would be the ones I'd worry about more than the other latinos. That's just a generalization, though. I'm sure you'll be just fine =)
I agree. i once dated a white girl and you wouldnt believe how many people stare at us when we walk around....im asian, she was white....

but one funny thing is...ill bet if it was the other way around with a white guy and Asian girl people wouldn't care. Fvckin racist fvcks in America man....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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