"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Are hot chicks worth it?? Pros vs Cons
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Being attracted to a girl doesn't mean the girl is empirically smoking hot.mikey2012 said:I can never be with a woman I wasnt attracted to.
Of course it doesn't really matter but there are always girls who might be 6/7s that for some reason you have massive attraction to even more so than 8/9s.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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this is true..
All good points here. So many ads ASSUME that as a 'man' you should enjoy a night with, say, Kate Upton. I reckon if i posted pics of my (eventual) girlfriend/s loads of anonymous gits (girls included, particularly the 'fashionista' type) would probably start picking apart her looks, and you wouldn't want that. Standards have gone insane. I have just about lost patience with that kind of thing in popular culture bleeding into real life.Pandora said:yeh man. I really think this intense desire for hot girls is manufactured. I look at my grandparents generation and they just wanted a good women to settle down with. Now thanks to hollywood we think we are owed a smoking hot chick. Many of our problems would disappear if the average guy just dated a 6/10. The problem is deep down inside we will never be really satiated with a 6/10.
Interesting point, I tell you what, the one actress that had a major impact on me in my youth was Amy Smart, and she wasn't really that girly. It is stated that in her personal life she was a tomboy, and I think that was somewhat reflected in her film roles.
Erm, yeah. Emphasis on SOME. Although stereotypes may say otherwise, many women can be utterly vile in weighing up men, and to some users of this site that's not news.....not attractive? Then to them you aren't a human being....They dress slutty, but then start complaining about 'perverts'....they vote for prime ministers or presidents because they're 'hot'....Pandora said:We are just as bad as women in some respects.