"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Are hot chicks worth it?? Pros vs Cons
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Being attracted to a girl doesn't mean the girl is empirically smoking hot.mikey2012 said:I can never be with a woman I wasnt attracted to.
Of course it doesn't really matter but there are always girls who might be 6/7s that for some reason you have massive attraction to even more so than 8/9s.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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this is true..
All good points here. So many ads ASSUME that as a 'man' you should enjoy a night with, say, Kate Upton. I reckon if i posted pics of my (eventual) girlfriend/s loads of anonymous gits (girls included, particularly the 'fashionista' type) would probably start picking apart her looks, and you wouldn't want that. Standards have gone insane. I have just about lost patience with that kind of thing in popular culture bleeding into real life.Pandora said:yeh man. I really think this intense desire for hot girls is manufactured. I look at my grandparents generation and they just wanted a good women to settle down with. Now thanks to hollywood we think we are owed a smoking hot chick. Many of our problems would disappear if the average guy just dated a 6/10. The problem is deep down inside we will never be really satiated with a 6/10.
Interesting point, I tell you what, the one actress that had a major impact on me in my youth was Amy Smart, and she wasn't really that girly. It is stated that in her personal life she was a tomboy, and I think that was somewhat reflected in her film roles.
Erm, yeah. Emphasis on SOME. Although stereotypes may say otherwise, many women can be utterly vile in weighing up men, and to some users of this site that's not news.....not attractive? Then to them you aren't a human being....They dress slutty, but then start complaining about 'perverts'....they vote for prime ministers or presidents because they're 'hot'....Pandora said:We are just as bad as women in some respects.