"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Are girls who like badboys a lost cause...

Aesthetix29

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Girls who like badboys... Surely this is never going to work, badboys act like d***s etc... But I know lots of girls who are attracted to the badboy image but there relationships never last very long.

I was seeing a girl a while back and because I'm a nice guy and got my head screwed on she lost interest etc... Which is fine, but I thought girls went for security/love etc... HOW WRONG AM I

well I'm going to see if I can worm my way back into her life but this time there will be no feelings and I will treat her like utter ****... See if she sticks around haha!

What's your take on this ?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Too many different cookies to taste my friend....why stay stuck on this particular one.

Also, youre not being genuine if ur gonna play games...no one is gonna end up liking you in the end. Neither her nor yourself.
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
Are girls who like badboys a lost cause...
I think it depends on how old they are. Many girls outgrow this. But if they're in their late 20s and still going for badboys, then yeah I'd say that's a pretty big red flag.

Also, most likely the girl's issue with you wasn't that you didn't treat her shabbily enough, it's that she found you boring. That's usually the real problem beneath most supposed "nice" guys. You want to be more fun, not necessarily more mean. But part of being fun is to stop being so supplicating and be more teasing, playful, sexual, dominant, etc. Guys are usually taller than girls, so don't look up to them, you want to look down on them, as is natural.
 

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Yeh your right Im moving on... The point I was making is I was seeing a 28 year old girl 8 weeks ago until she lost interest or someone else came on the seen... Which is fine but then last night I found out that in this 8 wks she's had 2 boyfriends (or seeing them at least) but I'm my eyes you could add a zero to that 2, last Sunday I recieved a message of her saying

Morning u ok Launa mentioned you had text me but I have a new number .. Txt me ur number and il send you my new one x

So I did (shouldn't off I know) but never heard anything back haha! Obvs got someone else now... So Launa phoned me last night and asked of is seen or spoke to her... Which I havnt... Launa said that this girl was saying she really liked me on Saturday etc... But doesn't like the fact I'm always in the pub (I'm not by the way just on Saturday watching football) infact she goes out more than me...

So I'd like to know what her game is.... Personally I think she's a slapper as she seems to be sleeping with everyone. I'd like to flip this round to where I have the upper hand.

Don't get me wrong I have moved on.. But seems weird her messaging me etc... I want to know what she's playing at ? This is the girl who likes badboys so if I ever recieve a text of her again I'd probaly reply something like

"listen... FU** OFF!!!!"

But knowing my luck she'd like that haha!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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