"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Are girls who like badboys a lost cause...

Aesthetix29

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Girls who like badboys... Surely this is never going to work, badboys act like d***s etc... But I know lots of girls who are attracted to the badboy image but there relationships never last very long.

I was seeing a girl a while back and because I'm a nice guy and got my head screwed on she lost interest etc... Which is fine, but I thought girls went for security/love etc... HOW WRONG AM I

well I'm going to see if I can worm my way back into her life but this time there will be no feelings and I will treat her like utter ****... See if she sticks around haha!

What's your take on this ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Too many different cookies to taste my friend....why stay stuck on this particular one.

Also, youre not being genuine if ur gonna play games...no one is gonna end up liking you in the end. Neither her nor yourself.
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
Are girls who like badboys a lost cause...
I think it depends on how old they are. Many girls outgrow this. But if they're in their late 20s and still going for badboys, then yeah I'd say that's a pretty big red flag.

Also, most likely the girl's issue with you wasn't that you didn't treat her shabbily enough, it's that she found you boring. That's usually the real problem beneath most supposed "nice" guys. You want to be more fun, not necessarily more mean. But part of being fun is to stop being so supplicating and be more teasing, playful, sexual, dominant, etc. Guys are usually taller than girls, so don't look up to them, you want to look down on them, as is natural.
 

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Yeh your right Im moving on... The point I was making is I was seeing a 28 year old girl 8 weeks ago until she lost interest or someone else came on the seen... Which is fine but then last night I found out that in this 8 wks she's had 2 boyfriends (or seeing them at least) but I'm my eyes you could add a zero to that 2, last Sunday I recieved a message of her saying

Morning u ok Launa mentioned you had text me but I have a new number .. Txt me ur number and il send you my new one x

So I did (shouldn't off I know) but never heard anything back haha! Obvs got someone else now... So Launa phoned me last night and asked of is seen or spoke to her... Which I havnt... Launa said that this girl was saying she really liked me on Saturday etc... But doesn't like the fact I'm always in the pub (I'm not by the way just on Saturday watching football) infact she goes out more than me...

So I'd like to know what her game is.... Personally I think she's a slapper as she seems to be sleeping with everyone. I'd like to flip this round to where I have the upper hand.

Don't get me wrong I have moved on.. But seems weird her messaging me etc... I want to know what she's playing at ? This is the girl who likes badboys so if I ever recieve a text of her again I'd probaly reply something like

"listen... FU** OFF!!!!"

But knowing my luck she'd like that haha!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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