"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Are Don Juans "High Maintenance"?

Desdinova

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We sometimes talk about women who are high maintenance. These are usually women who have self-esteem issues, and need to have their egos stroked constantly.

However, the other day I asked myself, "Am I a high maintenance guy?" I'd have to say that the answer is YES. If a woman isn't keeping me happy but is making me miserable and becomes sexually unsatisfying, I'll have the desire to move onto something else. I cannot be with a woman for the sole purpose of companionship. She needs to be a positive addition to my life, or she's not worth keeping around.

Your thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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flippinfreak

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It sounds like you stole this thought from somebody and put the classic "I had a thought" commitment behind it.

ie, high maintenance costs...

Yes, DonJuans are high maintenance, but the output comes before anybody gives you any input. Unless you are not a Don of course... than the input comes first, and you respond...

ie, supplication
 

Nighthawk

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My penis is VERY high-maintenance. Fortunately the job seems to be very fulfilling for those who are lucky enough to secure the post.

It's a good question, and compared to many AFCs, a DJ might prove a challenge - but as we know, most women want that.

Ultimately I think the phrase 'high-maintenance' is so weighted with the connotations of a male owner and female possession that it doesn't reverse-translate, but in general alpha males expect and are gladly given the respect, attention and financial incentives that they deserve.

Though I do see plenty of women happy with the safe, easily dominated types. Perhaps they do indeed consider a higher status male too 'high maintenance' (and prefer to wear the pants). But I reckon it's the average looking women that is most guilty of this. The uber-hotties are yearning for a real man to 'maintain'.
 

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Yep, we're pretty high-maintainence. Demanding, selfish, and arrogant. That's why we don't get along with high-maintainence women :D
 

SamePendo

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diplomatic_lies said:
Yep, we're pretty high-maintainence. Demanding, selfish, and arrogant. That's why we don't get along with high-maintainence women :D
Maybe you said it jokingly, but I think you're so damned right.

Great question Desdinova, hadn't thought about it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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