"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are DJs failing with women because of their dads?

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Instead of dad taking his son on goody two shoes, blue pilled, boy scout camping & fishing trips and or tossing the pigskin in the yard in hopes his offspring one day becomes the superbowl winning, beta bucks target for gold diggers...shouldn't dad have been taking his lil DJ out in the field sarging?

Is this why many lost boys end up seeking out game guru's as father figures instead of asking their own pops?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's a very complicated matter, however IMHO.

Boys tend to look to their fathers in 2 ways - first how they interact with their mother, and we tend to copy this behavior to future relationships, everything from simple gestures to how to behave around your future women, I am not saying how to pick up, but how to do those little things in already established LTR.

Two - how to behave around other man. Here a big role plays the fact whether your father was an achiever and well respected person, or someone who totally wasted his life and was happy with mediocrity. Usually if you get the first kind, you will be lucky as you will be explained some things about life early on first hand, without the need to trip and fall and learn from your mistakes.

I have never seen anyone talk game specifically with their father. Yet you might talk about how to be much more achieving and "alpha" (whatever that means to you) dominant male, just by simply taking an example from him.
 

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Our fathers grew up in a completely different era where gaming chicks was easy
 

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Our fathers grew up in a completely different era where gaming chicks was easy
How can you be certain if you yourself never experienced your fathers era yourself? Your father probably thinks you have it easy because of how much more promiscuous women are today and resources on your smartphone like dating apps.
 

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How can you be certain if you yourself never experienced your fathers era yourself? Your father probably thinks you have it easy because of how much more promiscuous women are today and resources on your smartphone like dating apps.

LOL citing dating apps. Thats how i know your argument is invalid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How can you be certain if you yourself never experienced your fathers era yourself? Your father probably thinks you have it easy because of how much more promiscuous women are today and resources on your smartphone like dating apps.
I once dated an Orthodox Jewish girl. Talk about Fathers having it easy! He had his way with both his wife AND daughter. Yes, I had to share my girlfriend with her father. That's not why I broke up with her though. Her uncle was a high ranking member of AIPAC, and I am so sick of those snakes running our politics.
 

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Our fathers grew up in a completely different era where gaming chicks was easy
Women were a lot different in the 70-80s they had traditional values compared to todays women that are entitled b*tches full of drama, women then actually respected men.
 

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My parents met @ a Catholic school dance. Very different world. Where my Dad did fail was not giving me any life advice and not helping me with projects cubbyhouse camping etc.. He had 3 older brothers. I had zero. He could have at least pointed me to a couple of books. If I had a son I d give him a reading list based on human nature and the use and abuse of logic. And eventually the DJ Bible would be in there.

But he was a great dad in other ways and it all turned out good.
 

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I don't think a lot of what our fathers learned in dealing with women translates to the issues we see today.

But I do think its important for a father to teach his son how to stand up for himself, be responsible, work hard, the importance of hobbies, fixing things, drive, determination, competition, not giving away your power, ambition, goals, etc.

So much of this is missing in today's young men. Too many grew up with a single mommy.

I'm thankful my dad took me everywhere he went. I learned so much that gave me an advantage later in life.
 

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My father who has been married to my mother for 45 years has never once given me good advice about women.
My uncle (his brother) who has been a lifelong bachelor wasn't much help either.
But they both gave me pretty good examples of how to be outgoing and social and interact with people while putting my best foot forward.
Some of this stuff you just gotta learn on your own.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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