EternalBachelor
Don Juan
Match.com has been my staple for most of my adult life and for the most part I have been happy with the results. But over the last few years it hasn't been working so well and the quality of girls has gone down and the number of fake ads has exploded. I am London based so not sure if this jives with the experience of you guys in the US.
I suspect a big part of the problem is a lot of girls have switched over to these popular swipe based apps like Tinder and Bumble which in London have gone mainstream.
My understanding of the mechanics of this app are for a match you both have to swipe right. Seems appealing in principle. No need to waste time drafting lengthy emails to girls who probably won't get around to reading them. And girls are not even going to be aware of unsolicited swipes whereas on old-fashioned dating sites they would get inundated with unsolicited creepy emails from guys they definitely wouldnt' want to date.
But the reality seems to be something like this. Most guys treat it as just a numbers game and see the most efficient approach as swiping right on pretty much every single profile and then seeing what matches they get and winnowing them down to the ones they'd actually be interested in dating. Guys tend to be a lot more motivated and pro-active when it comes to dating and therefore probably swipe a lot more profiles. So you can bet that most girls in a major metropolitan area have been right swiped by at least a couple thousand guys (compared to the couple hundred emails they might have got on a dating site).
I really do not know the algorithm that determines in what order girls see guys in their area. I have even read a rumour it is done on popularity (i.e. the guys who get the most matches appear first in line in the searches which would of course reinforce the winner takes all nature of the apps). But because it is so easy for girls to match (because most guys swipe right) this has two terrible consequences. Firstly, they tend to be incredibly selective swiping right on perhaps only 5% of the profiles. Secondly, they aren't going to bother going through hundreds of profiles the way most guys do.
So the chances are that if you swipe right on a girl a) she is never going to see your profile b) even if she did because she can be selective she is unlikely to swipe right.
Also I suspect a lot of the profiles you swipe on are inactive and for a lot of the girls they are just on there for the ego boost and to get that ego boost they are looking to match with good looking "trophy guys" they can show off to their friends rather than guys of similar attractiveness to themselves they might be compataible with.
Wondering if any other guys are encountering these problems and if there are any work-arounds?
I suspect a big part of the problem is a lot of girls have switched over to these popular swipe based apps like Tinder and Bumble which in London have gone mainstream.
My understanding of the mechanics of this app are for a match you both have to swipe right. Seems appealing in principle. No need to waste time drafting lengthy emails to girls who probably won't get around to reading them. And girls are not even going to be aware of unsolicited swipes whereas on old-fashioned dating sites they would get inundated with unsolicited creepy emails from guys they definitely wouldnt' want to date.
But the reality seems to be something like this. Most guys treat it as just a numbers game and see the most efficient approach as swiping right on pretty much every single profile and then seeing what matches they get and winnowing them down to the ones they'd actually be interested in dating. Guys tend to be a lot more motivated and pro-active when it comes to dating and therefore probably swipe a lot more profiles. So you can bet that most girls in a major metropolitan area have been right swiped by at least a couple thousand guys (compared to the couple hundred emails they might have got on a dating site).
I really do not know the algorithm that determines in what order girls see guys in their area. I have even read a rumour it is done on popularity (i.e. the guys who get the most matches appear first in line in the searches which would of course reinforce the winner takes all nature of the apps). But because it is so easy for girls to match (because most guys swipe right) this has two terrible consequences. Firstly, they tend to be incredibly selective swiping right on perhaps only 5% of the profiles. Secondly, they aren't going to bother going through hundreds of profiles the way most guys do.
So the chances are that if you swipe right on a girl a) she is never going to see your profile b) even if she did because she can be selective she is unlikely to swipe right.
Also I suspect a lot of the profiles you swipe on are inactive and for a lot of the girls they are just on there for the ego boost and to get that ego boost they are looking to match with good looking "trophy guys" they can show off to their friends rather than guys of similar attractiveness to themselves they might be compataible with.
Wondering if any other guys are encountering these problems and if there are any work-arounds?