Are dating apps bad news for most guys?

Nov 13, 2003
#1 has been my staple for most of my adult life and for the most part I have been happy with the results. But over the last few years it hasn't been working so well and the quality of girls has gone down and the number of fake ads has exploded. I am London based so not sure if this jives with the experience of you guys in the US.

I suspect a big part of the problem is a lot of girls have switched over to these popular swipe based apps like Tinder and Bumble which in London have gone mainstream.

My understanding of the mechanics of this app are for a match you both have to swipe right. Seems appealing in principle. No need to waste time drafting lengthy emails to girls who probably won't get around to reading them. And girls are not even going to be aware of unsolicited swipes whereas on old-fashioned dating sites they would get inundated with unsolicited creepy emails from guys they definitely wouldnt' want to date.

But the reality seems to be something like this. Most guys treat it as just a numbers game and see the most efficient approach as swiping right on pretty much every single profile and then seeing what matches they get and winnowing them down to the ones they'd actually be interested in dating. Guys tend to be a lot more motivated and pro-active when it comes to dating and therefore probably swipe a lot more profiles. So you can bet that most girls in a major metropolitan area have been right swiped by at least a couple thousand guys (compared to the couple hundred emails they might have got on a dating site).

I really do not know the algorithm that determines in what order girls see guys in their area. I have even read a rumour it is done on popularity (i.e. the guys who get the most matches appear first in line in the searches which would of course reinforce the winner takes all nature of the apps). But because it is so easy for girls to match (because most guys swipe right) this has two terrible consequences. Firstly, they tend to be incredibly selective swiping right on perhaps only 5% of the profiles. Secondly, they aren't going to bother going through hundreds of profiles the way most guys do.

So the chances are that if you swipe right on a girl a) she is never going to see your profile b) even if she did because she can be selective she is unlikely to swipe right.

Also I suspect a lot of the profiles you swipe on are inactive and for a lot of the girls they are just on there for the ego boost and to get that ego boost they are looking to match with good looking "trophy guys" they can show off to their friends rather than guys of similar attractiveness to themselves they might be compataible with.

Wondering if any other guys are encountering these problems and if there are any work-arounds?


Master Don Juan
Apr 21, 2018
No workaround. Many do it for attention. They end a relationship, feel down, turn on their app and they have dozens if not hundreds of men swiping right on them. The ladies I've met in meetup groups or public don't seem to use OLD as much.


Master Don Juan
Apr 2, 2014
To make what could have been a long post into a short one, the key to swipe apps is to either be a male model with excellent pictures, or to not use them as your primary means of meeting women. If you're not extremely good looking and your pictures are also excellent, then the drain on your energy won't be worth the crumbs you may or may not get. That's my experience. I've met women from non-swipe OLD, not a lot but at least it has happened, but the swipe apps have been a complete dud. Even if you do match with someone, odds are you won't meet them for one reason or another. Never paid for them though.

OLD in general for males is a winner takes all game, and that's amplified even more on swipe apps.
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Master Don Juan
Jan 16, 2012
I dropped tinder in any western european city while I still use it anytime I move east for work with decent results.

First of all the M:F ratio is so screwed that there are probably 5 men to any woman, then most of the women are there for ego or waste time, no need to mention most are no can do the math yourself.

Also they are much more picky than the real world, in those same countries there is a 2 point different between the girls I get in real life and the ones I get on apps, no way to get a 7 in those apps unless you are a solid 8 with great pictures and unlike what the average user of this board thinks, male 8s are probably less than 15% of the male population, unless ofc they all post here.

Anytime a woman doesnt invest in a man, she considers it cheap and not worth putting any effort or giving a chance.

There has been a research on speed dating where paid events got more matches while in free ones women were much more picky.

Also your bio or tag line have almost no value, your profile is as strong as your profile picture.


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Jan 12, 2016
Central Valley, CA
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Master Don Juan
Apr 29, 2007
I'm having success this past week (females making new years resolutions??) after nothing. Messaging with 6 different girls is very rare for me at least 50% initiated by me. I did put up a new pic upclose face with better phone/lighting. I does look badassy or badboyish, but I think I'm getting better looking but I wish I'd changed habits long ago as I'd believe my improved looks is the result of diet and nofap and of course staying busy taking care of sh!t and reading.


Master Don Juan
Apr 25, 2016
My take on OLD-

Its nothing different than wealth, success, fame, etc.

The top 10% get richer and the rest of the people run around getting played and nibble on crumbs. That top 10% that are cleaning up on OLD are the 9's and 10's on ATTRACTION. That is all that you are selling of yourself.

If you are in the top 10% of the most attractive men in your area you will clean up. If not, you need to work on yourself, your fashion, etc and get there.

The more popular OLD sites have been broken down many times on this forum.


Match is the best for meeting a higher class woman but there are also plenty of panty droppers on there.
Bumble would be second for finding something potentially sustainable.
Tinder 3rd.
OK Cupid in my area is full of fatties. I dont even get on it.
POF, IMO, regardless of area, is the trashiest of the trash on average. Find a woman that is an 8+ and she is probably majorly fvcked up, multiple baby daddies, enormous psychological problems and is just getting into the fvck and toss stage of her dating career.

I have much less success on POF vs Match, Bumble and Tinder. Several chicks that I have smashed from POF have told me that they were intimidated by me due to my perceived value vs theirs (and these chicks were 7s and 8s).

Still, it is easy for me to pull 7s all day long on POF. I am just not interested in it and dont have time for it when I can add 8s+ to my current rotation over time.

Keep in mind demographics. I am 41 and the target age for chicks that I am interested in is 25-32.
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Master Don Juan
Dec 24, 2017
Wondering if any other guys are encountering these problems and if there are any work-arounds?
RooshV has a solution. That being, DON'T DO IT.

COOP said the cream risrs to the top. The majority of OLD is **** (low hanging fruit, single moms, cratered SMV/30+, plummeted SMV 27+, etc). You are sifting through a **** sandwich. You have access to volume but 99% of men are lazy as ****kkkk slobs. They won't do the work.

After 10yrs +/- of pickup, cold approach, its not even comparable. 110% better succes rate, better looking, no catfish IRL, and its a classic example of being forged in the fire. Now, I am not saying spend a decade with pickup but, add it to your arsenal of game. You can immediately transition it to a variety of other ways to pull baeeees.

As for OLD, I'm guilty of swiping right @ life. Sure, tinder. Bumble, use Match or e harmony, whatever you like but, develop a better solution to pulling women as online optimization is tailored to female hypergamy on steroids.

There's ETP 2.0 mega link floating online. Check reddit.


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Dec 2, 2018
my mother said those girls who put them selves on dating apps are Fvukers Im starting to see it through red pill lens...its scary as ****....theres gotta be a point where u can pick and choose to your will though just cos they have pissy doesn't make them in control of dating apps. that's just tyranny. lolol


Master Don Juan
Jun 2, 2012
Eharmoney limit the number of men women can message, actually they have to wait to whatever the program send them .I got best results with this one years a go.