She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Have to agree, i usually do a movie/out to the club/ice cream or whatever and then just end up driving in some random parking lot to bang them. They just wana hang out for a bit, do something, and then DO YOU!floydb25 said:Yea... They just wanna have fun, hang out, drink, and ****. I made the SAME mistake with young girls back in the day. All they care about, at their emotionally maturity level (ie, practically non-existant), is excitement, partying, sex, "hot guys", etc.
Taking *****es on dates and being traditional never got me anywhere with youngins. They just wanted to hang out and ****. They werent all about the relationship gig... At least not in the traditional, healthy sense. All about the drama and excitement; not knowing their head from their ass; thinking infatuation and scattered emotions was love... Pining for players and BBs. You know the drill.
Not that going that route "hurt" anything, but it just delayed the process, and didnt actually "help" anything. When all was said and done, it was time-wasting and unnecessary.. And they werent even into it. They just wanted to **** and hang out, basically. Lots of wasted emotions back then.
This isnt time for all that love ****. They want to be charmed, aroused, swept off their feet, ****ed, and thrown out of windows. Probably in that order.
Those who try the hardest and give the most gain the least. So, while you're thinking you're making progress by courting them and being a gentleman by taking them out on dates and getting to know them - they're off ****ing some dude in the back of a van - whom they just met at a club, or dormroom, or abandoned crack house.
This is definitely time for fun and partying - not love and relationships.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dating is for lame dudes and old dudes.... if a ho like you she will come to your house and FRingleader41 said:I know plenty of guys banging girls and they haven't even taken them on a date yet. Yet, other guys are taking the same girl on dates and she goes back to banging the guy that doesn't take her out at the end of the night. This girl has been hooked on my friend for about a month and he told me he has never been on a date with her,