I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Have to agree, i usually do a movie/out to the club/ice cream or whatever and then just end up driving in some random parking lot to bang them. They just wana hang out for a bit, do something, and then DO YOU!floydb25 said:Yea... They just wanna have fun, hang out, drink, and ****. I made the SAME mistake with young girls back in the day. All they care about, at their emotionally maturity level (ie, practically non-existant), is excitement, partying, sex, "hot guys", etc.
Taking *****es on dates and being traditional never got me anywhere with youngins. They just wanted to hang out and ****. They werent all about the relationship gig... At least not in the traditional, healthy sense. All about the drama and excitement; not knowing their head from their ass; thinking infatuation and scattered emotions was love... Pining for players and BBs. You know the drill.
Not that going that route "hurt" anything, but it just delayed the process, and didnt actually "help" anything. When all was said and done, it was time-wasting and unnecessary.. And they werent even into it. They just wanted to **** and hang out, basically. Lots of wasted emotions back then.
This isnt time for all that love ****. They want to be charmed, aroused, swept off their feet, ****ed, and thrown out of windows. Probably in that order.
Those who try the hardest and give the most gain the least. So, while you're thinking you're making progress by courting them and being a gentleman by taking them out on dates and getting to know them - they're off ****ing some dude in the back of a van - whom they just met at a club, or dormroom, or abandoned crack house.
This is definitely time for fun and partying - not love and relationships.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dating is for lame dudes and old dudes.... if a ho like you she will come to your house and FRingleader41 said:I know plenty of guys banging girls and they haven't even taken them on a date yet. Yet, other guys are taking the same girl on dates and she goes back to banging the guy that doesn't take her out at the end of the night. This girl has been hooked on my friend for about a month and he told me he has never been on a date with her,