"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Are cold approaches common in real world?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
JT47319
Master Don Juan
You just make some obviou comment to her and if she responds positively you continue...
or if your with a friend ask your opinion abouth an argument your having and take it from there if possible....
It is nothing scary really.
Soma
Banned
Went to a coffee shop to meet a female friend (platonic). I had brought some jack in the box food with me into the coffee place. Got there before my friend so I made some calls to girls I met over the weekend.
When i was done I noticed two cute asian girls to my left. They were wearing bright colored shirts. As I sat down I said loudly, "Ahhh, look at that. Pastel colors. Pretty bright." They didn't even look at me but I continued on, "You've got bright green on and she has lavender. Don't see that everyday. Hey, you ever had Jalepeno Poppers from jack in the box? This **** is good. Want some?"
They turned, looked me, smiled and said no.
I replied, "You sure? It's good. Look, I even have ranch sauce to dip it in. I'm tellin you, you gotta try it. This **** will put hair on your chest."
They laughed and declined. Then they made a lame joke about wearing pastels during winter cause they thought it was spring. I was like, "Ah, well that's cool. Hey, you stand out. Everyone is wearing dark colors when it's already gloomy but you guys are bright. So you are helping to cheer people up. Rock on."
Then I asked em where they were from, they asked me, etc etc. Then my friend came in and sat down. I didn't even know the two girls names but I said to my friend, "Oh, how rude of me, I didn't even introduce you to my two friends. This is..."
They all shook hands and introd themselves. Then asked my name. Etc etc. Talked, got my friend involved. Soon, all four of use were talking and laughing. Found out one girl is from UCSD so I decided not to get her info. But the other one is from my area so I got her number. She asked for mine as well.
Done deal.
It's not that hard. Just say whatever the fvck comes to your mind. It may not be common for you now but soon it will be. And everyone will love to be around you cause it's exciting. Who else has the balls to do this shiet? You will be the one person who does.
Silquee Smoove
Master Don Juan
True that, and to add to this I myself got two hookups last week on Tuesday and Wednesday respectively.
Not enough for a field report, but expect some pics down the line.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Soma
Banned
Try it.
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She gave me some eye contact and it took me a few moments to get the balls to approach. I noticed that she was from out of state, so I made up a half-truth about thinking about attending grad school in the state where she is from. I used a bit of a corny line:
me: are those ur two kids
her:yes
me: (CORNY) well, you sure as hell dont have the body of a mother of two...
her:laughed (im sure she has heard this type of line before)
we small talked and I mentioned my niece....
Got her number shooked hands and she left....
Picking up hb's is new to me, I'm trying to use some advice I learned on her about learning to LOVE the anticipation of a pick up (the nervousness, shackness, increases heart rate etc... I use an affirmation about loving that feeling as a pre-pick up routine. Similar to how a swimmer or sprinters loves to love the sound of the gun that starts the race.