"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are coffee dates good for high schoolers?

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hey everyone, i was reading through the Bible and I found a thread about coffee dates in which a person in it said coffee dates were not good for high school girls. He was saying that their still too immature and wouldn't like it.

Now i am all for action dates, but i set up this date on a rainy, cold night and coffee is really the only thing i can think of doing. (it's supposed to rain)

What does everyone think of coffee dates based on experiences?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Whoever said that is probably still a virgin.

Just kidding, but he sounds like a very close minded guy who most likely is a virgin.

Listen, you don't need guidelines on where to take girls. Take girls somewhere they haven't been before. Take them somewhere another chump in high school hasn't. Set yourself apart.

Any guy can take a girl to a movie and buy her popcorn.

It takes a very intelligent and sensual guy (and yes women do like intelligent men, as long as they can concentrate on something besides themselves) to take a girl on a nice walk and have a conversation.

I was always under the misconception in high school that the guys who got ass were the ones who played by the rules. Don't. Women love guys who aren't afraid to go outside of the norm. Do what you want.
 

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hmm haha you both went off on little tangents but that's ok, i like the input anyway.

Well, the reason i was (am) going to take her to just chat over coffee is because i haven't talked to this girl in a long time, and were just going to catch up. Nothing big for two reasons

  1. I'm broke
  2. I actually just want to talk and catch up


I'm open for more opinions though, fire away :up:
 

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Sounds like you want to do a coffee date.

So you should do a coffee date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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