"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are blind dates AFC?

Jaxon

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I've got a friend that I work with that wants to hook me up with his step-sister on a blind date. I've never met or even seen her but I know people who have and they say she's pretty hot, at least worth a look on my end. I'm wondering if I'm starting out at a disadvantage by going about it this way though. Do blind dates come off as AFC?

I told him I'd go out with her and he told me that she's down, so my question is where do I go from here? Should I just get her number from him and call her, set it up through him, go on a double with he and his wife?

Also any suggestions for what to do on a blind date when you don't even know what they look like? If I'm not diggin' her I want to be able to bail out without coming off as a complete ass.

Feel free to add any other input on blind dates overall as well.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Go on the date and play it by ear. If she's not bothered don't worry, if she is then make a joke about how lame it is. Don't dwell on it but bring it out into the open - she'll probably be just as relieved as you to make a joke of it.
 

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dude, just get a pic before. I'd never meet otherwise.

txt her, dont call.

tease her via txt... give her a nickname.

it builds up a HUGE amount of curiosity
and when you do meet her, you'll know if
its on within a few min.

Use it wisely :)
 

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Don't think about it as a blind date. Think of it as going out for some drinks for an hour with someone new and if it doesn't work out, split.

It would be better if your friend you work with accompany you to the get together. Not only would he help you out but if you aren't digging her then you have someone else to talk to.
 

Jaxon

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Thanks for the advice guys. My friend just emailed me some pics of her and she is BANGIN'!! I'm definitely at least gonna give this a trial run and see what happens.

We were thinking of going on a double date with he and his wife. I got her number from him so I was just gonna call her. Unless you guys think texting up front is a better way to go? I've heard being direct and calling is better in most cases.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wjh

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definitely call. Introduce yourself, keep it short, confirm the date, then work your magic on her in person.
 
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