"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are blind dates AFC?

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I've got a friend that I work with that wants to hook me up with his step-sister on a blind date. I've never met or even seen her but I know people who have and they say she's pretty hot, at least worth a look on my end. I'm wondering if I'm starting out at a disadvantage by going about it this way though. Do blind dates come off as AFC?

I told him I'd go out with her and he told me that she's down, so my question is where do I go from here? Should I just get her number from him and call her, set it up through him, go on a double with he and his wife?

Also any suggestions for what to do on a blind date when you don't even know what they look like? If I'm not diggin' her I want to be able to bail out without coming off as a complete ass.

Feel free to add any other input on blind dates overall as well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Go on the date and play it by ear. If she's not bothered don't worry, if she is then make a joke about how lame it is. Don't dwell on it but bring it out into the open - she'll probably be just as relieved as you to make a joke of it.
 
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dude, just get a pic before. I'd never meet otherwise.

txt her, dont call.

tease her via txt... give her a nickname.

it builds up a HUGE amount of curiosity
and when you do meet her, you'll know if
its on within a few min.

Use it wisely :)
 
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Don't think about it as a blind date. Think of it as going out for some drinks for an hour with someone new and if it doesn't work out, split.

It would be better if your friend you work with accompany you to the get together. Not only would he help you out but if you aren't digging her then you have someone else to talk to.
 
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Thanks for the advice guys. My friend just emailed me some pics of her and she is BANGIN'!! I'm definitely at least gonna give this a trial run and see what happens.

We were thinking of going on a double date with he and his wife. I got her number from him so I was just gonna call her. Unless you guys think texting up front is a better way to go? I've heard being direct and calling is better in most cases.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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definitely call. Introduce yourself, keep it short, confirm the date, then work your magic on her in person.
 
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