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It is different lifestyle yet still the same principles. I’ve become more flexible on things she cares about. “Compromise.” However, still have to draw the line when she flirts with it. They never stop challenging you! I think married guys get a combination of lazy and busy, then eventually forget about keeping their woman in the same frame that got her.
Its what happens when people are PickUpArtists and used to talk their way into pvssy. Without being redpilled to a certain degree, you walk into a gunfight with a knife, thinking happy wife-happy life will just work out fine as it got you pvssy in the past.
Your experience on marriage is not existent after 8 months.
Playing Roulette is also a good thing when you win.
But a man shouldn't get married because society looks at him with respect or some bs like that, its like saying this man married a single mother, raised her kid, became the father that kid needed, society will see him as a hero, as the man who stepped up, but in reality he's a cvck.
That is not and has never been the primary reason to get married. The primary reason to wed is to build a nuclear family. Social proof is just one of the external benefits.
Children are what we are biologically inclined to do… procreate. Most people want to have kids. If a person doesn’t want to have kids I would agree the incentive to be married is diminished.
I have years to go before I have both a decent income and the right schedule to meet women. By then I will be too old for attractive women.
The statistics are correct but the premise is misleading. Again, there are benefits that come from entering marriage. The most significant being having and raising children.
Having and raising children without marriage is totally fine. People have been doing it since a couple of 100.000 years.
Statistically it is suboptimal.
Completely missed the point. A non-marriage LTR is certain to fail. Why even bother?
I think I'm seeing that with my friend who has 100+ notches but now has to "check with the wife" at times when he wants to see me. I have no doubt that other married male friends I know have "checked with the wife" before seeing me but they don't express the sentiment. Expressing the sentiment makes a man look like he has a weak frame.
Most marriages fail too. That's why I've talked about the idea that monogamous relationships typically have a shelf life of goodness of about 5 years (and that's with a good frame). There are plenty of monogamous relationships that last more than 5 years, but the relationship lives on mainly because of how good it was at some past moment in time and not based on the quality of the current relationship.
Well thats just wrong.
A marriage often postpones the inevitable. For instance, a marriage might fail after 10-12 years of total relationship time, whereas a non-marital relationship might fail in 4-6 years. Marriage has a way of keeping people in zombie relationships for longer periods of time.
They do not. Elderly folks are either married, widowed, or die alone. It is rare to see an older person with a girlfriend / boyfriend.
I dont think any well balanced woman doesnt want kids. I dated one who didnt want kids, but then she was jealous of the time I spent with mine.
^This.
Divorce rate is a meaningless statistic. The article below explains why. I'll put in a couple of quotes from it.
Divorce rate undercounts both #1 and #2, but the undercount of #2 is the more relevant factor.
Most of my local area social circle got married between 2015-2021. There was a big flurry of weddings around 2017, so that's why there are a bunch of babies right now in my social circle. I devoted a thread to this occurrence recently.
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