"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aproaching friend after dancing with other girl

EmotionalGeek

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I have following situation few times. I see two girls dancing I extend the hand toward one and she accepts we dance for few songs with some conversation. Then she goes for the drink or go to friend. After few minutes that girl I was not dancing with me is checking me out many times. It always felt awkward to me to approach other girl so I never have. Do you have any field experience with approaching friend?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bayne05

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Do you think you have to apologise first for dancing with her friend instead of her? No you don't. Walk up to her and have a normal convo like you did with the first girl. Simple
 

EmotionalGeek

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I'm concerned by two things:
1. No one likes to know she is the second one and she knows that.
2. I do not want to look like some crazy pickup artist asking to dance every girl.
 

AlphaNate

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I'm concerned by two things:
1. No one likes to know she is the second one and she knows that.
2. I do not want to look like some crazy pickup artist asking to dance every girl.
  1. Learn to not give a f*ck
  2. Learn to not give a f*ck
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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