"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I am going bowling with my friends tonight, where a lot of girls joke around, bowl, and some even work there. For the first time, I'd like to test my skills on some some these strangers. I am a junior in high school, so these girls are prly around the age of 15-18. When I approach a couple tonight, how should I handle it and what are some examples of what I should do. I would also like to get a few numbers, but I don't think I have the courage to go for that. Can anyone help me and let me know what I should do with some tips and mock examples--Thanks!

Also, I tend to overanalyze the situation and keep telling myself "Mike, she is too good for you." Or "Mike she is out of your league, you will get rejected in a second." How do I stop telling myself that. I also have been working on my C + F routine and I like it, but I still need more work. How do I throw some in my gaame when I go out tonight and HOPE I DO APPROACH some girls and get a few numbers?

Mike
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kev07

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don't think, just do, don't even think about what you might say, because the only thing you should start with is "hi my name is chicks just dig me" and go from there. Unless of course you see her doing somethign that you can completely comment on, then you can just comment then introduce yourself

getting numbers should not be your main concern if this is your first time, trust me a lot of your conversatinos will be short and awkward. just introduce yourself and make comments about the place etc.

anyways you should be trying to get comfortable talking to strangers, and do this everywhere, and djing will come to you.
 

edmond

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Depends on how you look. if you are not toooooo ugly, then there is no reason to be afraid.
Just think that their sh*t stinks as well.
 
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How will I bring in the ****y and Funny for them not to think I am a jerk? I intoduce myself, then what I can bust on? Any previous experience examples i can have please.
 

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It's a bit like the chicken and egg thing: what came first?

You want to be confident and make a good impression, but you won't have that unless you have some experience. Therefore I agree with Kev07 and just aim for small victories. When I was your age I was completely useless. Be glad you're able to get advice and be aware that it's just a skills gap that needs to be bridged, nothing to with personal shortcomings.

If you are a natural, then good on ya. But I say just make small talk and get relaxaed around them first. They will probably be just as anxious, if not more so. Then when you are relaxed, look for opportunities to make them laugh or charm them. Try basic kino, etc.

Again, don't aim too high. They need to remember you afterward in a positive light, that's all. If you get interest from one sheila, get her e-mail or IM or phone number. You can do it, man! You are the prize.

:rockon:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kev07

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****y and funny is impossible to preplan, if you preplan that kind of stuff you're just asking for failure.

the comments have to be on what she's doing that might be a little ridiculous, or environmental.

also remember to smile or else you'll just freak them out.
 
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