mr.uk
Don Juan
i get so bothered by the fact that my friends might be watching me approach a hb. dont really know why?!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
approaching when your friends can see you
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Get over it.
You'll almost always have an audience, and being conscious of the fact that you're being watched will only serve to hamper your game.
You'll almost always have an audience, and being conscious of the fact that you're being watched will only serve to hamper your game.
What I do is pretty much whatever I do I always imagine someone watching whatever I do.Its kind of strange yeah but even if Im outside juggling a soccer ball I imagine that Im being assesed in some sort of way.
Try it out whenever you do something even if its unrelated to girls.
Plus think of it this way.When your friends are watching you,that should give you motivation.It should be like support man.Also think about it,if you make a good pickup while they can see you,you have a good opp to impress them.
Try it out whenever you do something even if its unrelated to girls.
Plus think of it this way.When your friends are watching you,that should give you motivation.It should be like support man.Also think about it,if you make a good pickup while they can see you,you have a good opp to impress them.
The only thing to worry about is your dork friends giving you thumbs up and high fiving you after you get a number.
Let just say it happened to me once and the girl I got the number didn't like it or me for that matter.
Let just say it happened to me once and the girl I got the number didn't like it or me for that matter.
sandman6991
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I like having an audience. It's more fun when you know there are people watching!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
chancer
Senior Don Juan
It use to bug the **** out of me. Friends would see me finally grab my balls and I could hear them in the background. I even rememeber being laughed at a couple of times. But now I don't give a **** who's watching or who's around, my friends or hers, and it works out better that way
nismo-4
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I act like I'm the star of my own television show! This gives me more confidence and I can make a girl laugh easier!
Don't let this type of sh*t bother you. Just go with the flow. As long as you keep it sunny, you'll be fine. The audience might be AFCS. Get the # and watch them all get mad!
Good luck to ya!
Don't let this type of sh*t bother you. Just go with the flow. As long as you keep it sunny, you'll be fine. The audience might be AFCS. Get the # and watch them all get mad!
Good luck to ya!
wjh
Master Don Juan
Shiet, my friends know that if I'm going to talk to girls it's all out of fun anyway. No big deal. Maybe get some new friends?
If anything I make them look like idiots for all standing around holding each others' c0cks. I mean, it's all good if you want to have a couple of drinks with your friends and get out. But at some point or another bagging girls is going to be something I'll want to mess around with.
Your boys should encourage you AND bust your balls a bit, and only a bit, as a joke - and maybe give you some constructive criticism. I wouldn't hang out with dudes incapable of making light out of the whole situation (considering how much of a non-issue it is).
It's all for fun man. Just try to enjoy yourself and make the most of any situation.
If anything I make them look like idiots for all standing around holding each others' c0cks. I mean, it's all good if you want to have a couple of drinks with your friends and get out. But at some point or another bagging girls is going to be something I'll want to mess around with.
Your boys should encourage you AND bust your balls a bit, and only a bit, as a joke - and maybe give you some constructive criticism. I wouldn't hang out with dudes incapable of making light out of the whole situation (considering how much of a non-issue it is).
It's all for fun man. Just try to enjoy yourself and make the most of any situation.
Sir I
Don Juan
dude, forget everyone and everything else around you except for the even hotter chick. it's a tunnel you must move in, she's there in the middle when you approach go for the small talk keep it short than you can asses her by her response either way you keep the conversation short and carry on towards someone you allready know or could simply have a different kind of conversation with.
that's the basic way to initiate contact once you get the hang of that you can expand on the first conversations and take it from there.
that your friends are there shouldn't be important, the only challenge present could be her being with a group of girlfriends who watch over each other.
that's the basic way to initiate contact once you get the hang of that you can expand on the first conversations and take it from there.
that your friends are there shouldn't be important, the only challenge present could be her being with a group of girlfriends who watch over each other.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.