mr.uk
Don Juan
i get so bothered by the fact that my friends might be watching me approach a hb. dont really know why?!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
approaching when your friends can see you
- Thread starter mr.uk
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Get over it.
You'll almost always have an audience, and being conscious of the fact that you're being watched will only serve to hamper your game.
You'll almost always have an audience, and being conscious of the fact that you're being watched will only serve to hamper your game.
What I do is pretty much whatever I do I always imagine someone watching whatever I do.Its kind of strange yeah but even if Im outside juggling a soccer ball I imagine that Im being assesed in some sort of way.
Try it out whenever you do something even if its unrelated to girls.
Plus think of it this way.When your friends are watching you,that should give you motivation.It should be like support man.Also think about it,if you make a good pickup while they can see you,you have a good opp to impress them.
Try it out whenever you do something even if its unrelated to girls.
Plus think of it this way.When your friends are watching you,that should give you motivation.It should be like support man.Also think about it,if you make a good pickup while they can see you,you have a good opp to impress them.
The only thing to worry about is your dork friends giving you thumbs up and high fiving you after you get a number.
Let just say it happened to me once and the girl I got the number didn't like it or me for that matter.
Let just say it happened to me once and the girl I got the number didn't like it or me for that matter.
sandman6991
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I like having an audience. It's more fun when you know there are people watching!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
chancer
Senior Don Juan
It use to bug the **** out of me. Friends would see me finally grab my balls and I could hear them in the background. I even rememeber being laughed at a couple of times. But now I don't give a **** who's watching or who's around, my friends or hers, and it works out better that way
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I act like I'm the star of my own television show! This gives me more confidence and I can make a girl laugh easier!
Don't let this type of sh*t bother you. Just go with the flow. As long as you keep it sunny, you'll be fine. The audience might be AFCS. Get the # and watch them all get mad!
Good luck to ya!
Don't let this type of sh*t bother you. Just go with the flow. As long as you keep it sunny, you'll be fine. The audience might be AFCS. Get the # and watch them all get mad!
Good luck to ya!
wjh
Master Don Juan
Shiet, my friends know that if I'm going to talk to girls it's all out of fun anyway. No big deal. Maybe get some new friends?
If anything I make them look like idiots for all standing around holding each others' c0cks. I mean, it's all good if you want to have a couple of drinks with your friends and get out. But at some point or another bagging girls is going to be something I'll want to mess around with.
Your boys should encourage you AND bust your balls a bit, and only a bit, as a joke - and maybe give you some constructive criticism. I wouldn't hang out with dudes incapable of making light out of the whole situation (considering how much of a non-issue it is).
It's all for fun man. Just try to enjoy yourself and make the most of any situation.
If anything I make them look like idiots for all standing around holding each others' c0cks. I mean, it's all good if you want to have a couple of drinks with your friends and get out. But at some point or another bagging girls is going to be something I'll want to mess around with.
Your boys should encourage you AND bust your balls a bit, and only a bit, as a joke - and maybe give you some constructive criticism. I wouldn't hang out with dudes incapable of making light out of the whole situation (considering how much of a non-issue it is).
It's all for fun man. Just try to enjoy yourself and make the most of any situation.
Sir I
Don Juan
dude, forget everyone and everything else around you except for the even hotter chick. it's a tunnel you must move in, she's there in the middle when you approach go for the small talk keep it short than you can asses her by her response either way you keep the conversation short and carry on towards someone you allready know or could simply have a different kind of conversation with.
that's the basic way to initiate contact once you get the hang of that you can expand on the first conversations and take it from there.
that your friends are there shouldn't be important, the only challenge present could be her being with a group of girlfriends who watch over each other.
that's the basic way to initiate contact once you get the hang of that you can expand on the first conversations and take it from there.
that your friends are there shouldn't be important, the only challenge present could be her being with a group of girlfriends who watch over each other.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.