"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Approaching other women infront of female aquaintances?

Konada

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Has anyone done it? It seems like this is one situation that would take major balls to do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JonJaper

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Well I've got into a conversation with a girl I've never met before infront of a female acquaintance (see the week 2 Don Juan bootcamp thread)...didn't really bother me because I never thought "oh no, this will be awkward, what will the acquaintance think of me??".

Having said that, it might even be a GOOD thing because other girls might get jealous/competitive.

Change your mindset...it's not a "omg this is difficult and will take balls" situation. It's a "hey this will be fun AND female acquaintances will realise that I AM THE GREAT CATCH and that my time/availability is valuable" situation.
 

Diaforetikos

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Happens all the time. If she is an acquaintance, why do you care what she thinks? If you want to game a women, then game her. If your attracted to the acquaintance, then game her.

This topic is black and white, and yet you make it harder by making it gray.
 

Htienvu

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Diaforetikos said:
Happens all the time. If she is an acquaintance, why do you care what she thinks? If you want to game a women, then game her. If your attracted to the acquaintance, then game her.

This topic is black and white, and yet you make it harder by making it gray.
Exactly! It may raise your value in front of your acquaintances, she may get jealous/competitive and up her interest level in you. Win Win situation here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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