"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chronix

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Whats a good way to walk up to a group of 2-4 girls sitting at a table at lunch, or maybe even between classes and get good vibes going? I searched but there was a bunch of results and none looked useful. Any tips?

I remember reading a post about someone using something like "When you first walked into the restruant, the light was hitting you at a 20 degree angle and i thought to myself... dam that girl looks pretty cute... and now that im standing/sitting beside you, I figured that.................. I figured that I was right." Im thinking about testing that out but to me... that kind of seems to me that to the group itl look as if you are chasing just one of the females, and that takes you out of being the prize and puts that one female as the prize.

All suggestions are helpful.

-ChroN
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr_rogers

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Chronix said:
Whats a good way to walk up to a group of 2-4 girls sitting at a table at lunch, or maybe even between classes and get good vibes going? I searched but there was a bunch of results and none looked useful. Any tips?

I remember reading a post about someone using something like "When you first walked into the restruant, the light was hitting you at a 20 degree angle and i thought to myself... dam that girl looks pretty cute... and now that im standing/sitting beside you, I figured that.................. I figured that I was right." Im thinking about testing that out but to me... that kind of seems to me that to the group itl look as if you are chasing just one of the females, and that takes you out of being the prize and puts that one female as the prize.

All suggestions are helpful.

-ChroN
Wow... That is total AFC advice, IMO. That's great if you're trying to make her fall in love with you for the rest of your lives and then some. God knows I wouldn't use that to pick up some girl... *shudders*
 

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start talking to them like you would normally do then do a false time constraint and sit down. remember don't go str8 for the target, befriend the friends first.
 

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Distant Light said:
start talking to them like you would normally do then do a false time constraint and sit down. remember don't go str8 for the target, befriend the friends first.
What exactly is a false time constraint? Whats a good opener too, i like to approach and do handshakes.
 

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Chronix said:
What exactly is a false time constraint? Whats a good opener too, i like to approach and do handshakes.
High 5s
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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j8snx1

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It's clear by now that the "pick up line" you just learned is completely useless my friend. Instead of using garbage that you wouldn't normally allow to come out of your mouth, just use common sense and your surroundings.

For ex:
The 2-4 girls are all debating on whether Bush makes a good president or not. You just happen to walk by them and hear their conversation briefly so you might want to approach them and ask if you can join them because:

a) you've been wondering why Bush was such a big issue so you wanted to know the details behind WHY Bush is horrible
b) you're doing a report on how Bush has coped with different international issues
c) whatever that's government/Bush related, making sure you add ****y/funny, kino, etc.

I can't say for sure because there are too many scenarios, but simply put it this way; use your surroundings or the topic of the discussion and branch it all out from there.
 

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2 - 4 girls probably won't be discussing bush. LMAO.
Politics are boring.
I like to network, like, if I know one of them then I'm jetset.
But I like to ask them a question, or something of the sort.
"Is that fish really all that good?"
Just learn how to make approaches, that's the easy part.
 
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