"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Approaching girls from behind

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What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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IcedT said:
What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
Some girls are into anal
 

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hahahahahahahahah yeah some do captainj

Just, you really shouldn't have to come up from behind, move yourself around so you don't have to.

But if you really have to which i cant think of many reasons why this is... why not i mean some might think its a little weird and be uncomfortable but its just another rejection or success
 

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yo IcedT you gotta study body language. its real important. If you approach a girl from behind you're more likely to activate her sympathetic nervous system (flight/fight response) resulting in increased heart rate, sweating and much more. Not a good idea. Approach a women from the side and because this way you are not an immediate threat. Also you might want to try not approaching women from the front, or when you do, angle your body away but have your head turned towards her and as the interaction progresses gradually turn to face her full on.

There is also the idea of the sexual threat in body language but its best you read about these yourself.
Body Language is an essential. google it, you'll get a TON of tips and you can download many books on body language
 

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IcedT said:
What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?

Absolutely! Just make sure you sneak up quietly and are wearing a mask and nobody else is around.


Cheers!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chronocidal said:
Maybe you could tell us what exactly is happening in the approaches you are describing? Perhaps more people could give more usable pointers instead of making silly jokes.

Are you trying to catch up to someone you saw ahead of you walking on a street? Or are you trying to move your way through a massively overcrowded bar and happen to be located behind her (directly or a row-of-people or more separated)? Or...?
first example
 

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If you mean walking up to a girl and tapping her on the back or saying hi while she's walking ahead of you, then yea I can see that coming off as weird to a girl.

I'd avoid this kind of approach if it's possible. If you approach the girl while maintaining eye contact and she's right in front of you, this yields better results. Your main goal is to establish eye contact first, guage her interest and body language, and then make your approach.
 

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I did this today and last week. Nothing wrong with it, just don't do it in a dark alley or something. What you want to do is give a few feet of space after your opener and face her at an angle, just the fundamental stuff, after your opener don't expect a great reaction, you have to follow up with something about yourself to be credible. Very much like a front-on approach from my experiences.
 
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