"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Approaching girls from behind
- Thread starter IcedT
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Some girls are into analIcedT said:What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
Analyzeit
Senior Don Juan
Just, you really shouldn't have to come up from behind, move yourself around so you don't have to.
But if you really have to which i cant think of many reasons why this is... why not i mean some might think its a little weird and be uncomfortable but its just another rejection or success
HOT_CHILLI
Don Juan
There is also the idea of the sexual threat in body language but its best you read about these yourself.
Body Language is an essential. google it, you'll get a TON of tips and you can download many books on body language
IcedT said:What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
Absolutely! Just make sure you sneak up quietly and are wearing a mask and nobody else is around.
Cheers!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
first exampleChronocidal said:Maybe you could tell us what exactly is happening in the approaches you are describing? Perhaps more people could give more usable pointers instead of making silly jokes.
Are you trying to catch up to someone you saw ahead of you walking on a street? Or are you trying to move your way through a massively overcrowded bar and happen to be located behind her (directly or a row-of-people or more separated)? Or...?
You beat me to the punch lol.CaptainJ said:Some girls are into anal
Real answer: Not if you are trying to get laid.
I'd avoid this kind of approach if it's possible. If you approach the girl while maintaining eye contact and she's right in front of you, this yields better results. Your main goal is to establish eye contact first, guage her interest and body language, and then make your approach.
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