"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Approaching girls from behind

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What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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IcedT said:
What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?
Some girls are into anal
 

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hahahahahahahahah yeah some do captainj

Just, you really shouldn't have to come up from behind, move yourself around so you don't have to.

But if you really have to which i cant think of many reasons why this is... why not i mean some might think its a little weird and be uncomfortable but its just another rejection or success
 

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yo IcedT you gotta study body language. its real important. If you approach a girl from behind you're more likely to activate her sympathetic nervous system (flight/fight response) resulting in increased heart rate, sweating and much more. Not a good idea. Approach a women from the side and because this way you are not an immediate threat. Also you might want to try not approaching women from the front, or when you do, angle your body away but have your head turned towards her and as the interaction progresses gradually turn to face her full on.

There is also the idea of the sexual threat in body language but its best you read about these yourself.
Body Language is an essential. google it, you'll get a TON of tips and you can download many books on body language
 

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IcedT said:
What do you guys think of this? Is it a good idea to cold approach a girl from behind, or does that kind of approach start off wrong, and look stalkerish?

Absolutely! Just make sure you sneak up quietly and are wearing a mask and nobody else is around.


Cheers!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Chronocidal said:
Maybe you could tell us what exactly is happening in the approaches you are describing? Perhaps more people could give more usable pointers instead of making silly jokes.

Are you trying to catch up to someone you saw ahead of you walking on a street? Or are you trying to move your way through a massively overcrowded bar and happen to be located behind her (directly or a row-of-people or more separated)? Or...?
first example
 

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If you mean walking up to a girl and tapping her on the back or saying hi while she's walking ahead of you, then yea I can see that coming off as weird to a girl.

I'd avoid this kind of approach if it's possible. If you approach the girl while maintaining eye contact and she's right in front of you, this yields better results. Your main goal is to establish eye contact first, guage her interest and body language, and then make your approach.
 

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I did this today and last week. Nothing wrong with it, just don't do it in a dark alley or something. What you want to do is give a few feet of space after your opener and face her at an angle, just the fundamental stuff, after your opener don't expect a great reaction, you have to follow up with something about yourself to be credible. Very much like a front-on approach from my experiences.
 
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