"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Approaching girl in your apartment complex

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(FYI - I'm at the AFC level. A success every here and there but I've got a long way to go.)

I have lived in my current apartment about a year. There's a cute girl that lives in my fairly small complex. Due to our differing schedules, I have only run across her face to face a couple times over the last year and for very brief moments. The brief chances I have had to talk to her, she seems very nice, down to earth, and girl next door-ish. Just the way I like. Problem is, our encounters are so brief I don't have the time to work up a way to escalate things. I'm sure the DJs out there can do this sh*t within 1 minute, but I'm still learning the game.

Next time I see her which could come at any moment, I want to be prepared. I need to be able to escalate beyond the "friendly neighbor" crap and do so in the short time that I might be in the elevator with her. If any of you have been in this situation and have techniques, help me out brothers!
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Chosen1

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say he i've seen you a couple times around here and we never get a chance to talk hi my name is.... this worked for me once but the girl had a boyfriend but i really got to talking and she listen i just wish i could communicate better and get better responses she was a cutie ah well it is the past
 

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I've been here before -- except the gurl went to my skool so i ceen her everyday but never made a move...(she's the reason i found the website) but that's an entirely different story

here's wut i'd do -

you: " hey (her name) u know u seem pretty kool, how bout me an you get together some time "
 

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The Delivery Guy Approach...

Hahaaa,it's funny that you ask this because I was in this same situation. My bro (a natural at DJing) told me to do this:

Get an empty pizza box and knock on her door. Play the role of a delivery guy, and when she discovers the box is empty...say something like, "Well, I must have eaten all the pizza on my way here, we can order another...." etc. Worked for me...let me know if it works for you!

Keen
 

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Keen said:
Hahaaa,it's funny that you ask this because I was in this same situation. My bro (a natural at DJing) told me to do this:

Get an empty pizza box and knock on her door. Play the role of a delivery guy, and when she discovers the box is empty...say something like, "Well, I must have eaten all the pizza on my way here, we can order another...." etc. Worked for me...let me know if it works for you!

Keen

if this is a girl you don't know, and all of a sudden you're knocking on her door she will think you're a stalker
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is nothing more than my own personal view, but I try to stay away from approaching girls that I'm going to end up seeing on a daily basis without effort (effort meaning arranging times to meet in order to see one another). Given that you described your apartment complex as a small one, I would advise against approaching this one. However that doesn't mean that you can't practice flirting.

Also on a side note, stop refering to yourself as a person at the AFC level. Guys at the AFC level are the ones that don't have a clue as to how they can rid themselves of thier AFC status. From now on in your worse, most self-loathing moment refer to yourself as a Recovering AFC. Remember "I think, therefore I am."
 

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poohead said:
if this is a girl you don't know, and all of a sudden you're knocking on her door she will think you're a stalker

Yeah you're right...after a little more rapport, this works wonders.
 
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