"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Approaching girl in your apartment complex

ca1976

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(FYI - I'm at the AFC level. A success every here and there but I've got a long way to go.)

I have lived in my current apartment about a year. There's a cute girl that lives in my fairly small complex. Due to our differing schedules, I have only run across her face to face a couple times over the last year and for very brief moments. The brief chances I have had to talk to her, she seems very nice, down to earth, and girl next door-ish. Just the way I like. Problem is, our encounters are so brief I don't have the time to work up a way to escalate things. I'm sure the DJs out there can do this sh*t within 1 minute, but I'm still learning the game.

Next time I see her which could come at any moment, I want to be prepared. I need to be able to escalate beyond the "friendly neighbor" crap and do so in the short time that I might be in the elevator with her. If any of you have been in this situation and have techniques, help me out brothers!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Chosen1

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say he i've seen you a couple times around here and we never get a chance to talk hi my name is.... this worked for me once but the girl had a boyfriend but i really got to talking and she listen i just wish i could communicate better and get better responses she was a cutie ah well it is the past
 

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I've been here before -- except the gurl went to my skool so i ceen her everyday but never made a move...(she's the reason i found the website) but that's an entirely different story

here's wut i'd do -

you: " hey (her name) u know u seem pretty kool, how bout me an you get together some time "
 

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The Delivery Guy Approach...

Hahaaa,it's funny that you ask this because I was in this same situation. My bro (a natural at DJing) told me to do this:

Get an empty pizza box and knock on her door. Play the role of a delivery guy, and when she discovers the box is empty...say something like, "Well, I must have eaten all the pizza on my way here, we can order another...." etc. Worked for me...let me know if it works for you!

Keen
 

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Keen said:
Hahaaa,it's funny that you ask this because I was in this same situation. My bro (a natural at DJing) told me to do this:

Get an empty pizza box and knock on her door. Play the role of a delivery guy, and when she discovers the box is empty...say something like, "Well, I must have eaten all the pizza on my way here, we can order another...." etc. Worked for me...let me know if it works for you!

Keen

if this is a girl you don't know, and all of a sudden you're knocking on her door she will think you're a stalker
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This is nothing more than my own personal view, but I try to stay away from approaching girls that I'm going to end up seeing on a daily basis without effort (effort meaning arranging times to meet in order to see one another). Given that you described your apartment complex as a small one, I would advise against approaching this one. However that doesn't mean that you can't practice flirting.

Also on a side note, stop refering to yourself as a person at the AFC level. Guys at the AFC level are the ones that don't have a clue as to how they can rid themselves of thier AFC status. From now on in your worse, most self-loathing moment refer to yourself as a Recovering AFC. Remember "I think, therefore I am."
 

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poohead said:
if this is a girl you don't know, and all of a sudden you're knocking on her door she will think you're a stalker

Yeah you're right...after a little more rapport, this works wonders.
 
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