"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Approaching females
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Women are human beings, not aliens.
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If you have never approached a girl in the past, it will SEEM like the hardest and scariest thing to do in the whole world.
the guys who say pfffff you idiot, just go and do it do not get where you are coming from, they have probably 10000s of approaches already, or are just trolls (most likely)
yes I have done more than 500 approaches probably this year, so I know wtf im talking about.... approaching girls will be hard at first, but if you are willing to go through the pain of embarrassment and humiliation that will happen over and over again until you slowly start developing basic social skills to keep a conversation
with time, you will start to develop attractive personality traits, humor, confidence, with time after months and months of approaching girls, you will start to become indifferent, the moment you realize you don't give a damn what a girl things of you, you will start to say funny, outrageous things that will generate attraction
for now.. you care too much! you need lines, you need a positive reaction from them, so you don't get it. you need to get out there and fail too many times
good luck!!!
just say "hey I saw you, and I had to come meet you"
"hey you are cute, I had to come talk to you"
if she is walking towards you get in front of her ( hey I see you, and I have to say Hi to you)
and then just practice being normal... once you become VERY comfortable talking to girls, practice being INDIFERENT to the outcome, INDIFERENT to their reaction towards you... eventually practice being funny, silly, and sexual
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
pipe007 said:
nope I don't, i'm saying what I had to deal with, i'm the shy nerd kind, stay quiet and most of time don't lose my time getting out of my way.
but one thing is if he want to talk with anyone only way for him to learn it is doing it, after sometime you will start to realize you can talk with anyone, if you don't care about they opnion of you because you are not really wanting anything then asking for a question about a street or where is X place, same for guys when you are new in a place of work or school.
he need to aproach so jsut go and talk don't need to take the phone number if you jsut want to see what you can do and talk, just go and talk get some experience on how to break ice with random people, after you are ok doing it you can start to get the phone number or go on.
worked for me it can or not work for the op but he have to find a way to get experience, I will always consider lack of experience for any problem, so sorry no easy way or 1-2-3 steps go out and learn