"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Approaching a group of two at a cafe

KnightRyder

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How would you do this approach ?

You see your target sitting with her friend having a coffee at a public cafe . They are sitting with themselves only and the Target shows some signs of interests you know she will respond to your questions because you had a brief conversation 1 -2 minute prior about her job, but how do you join them ?


WHat can I say to join them ??

Do I just say "May I join you ? " Sounds so GAY, they might say "yes" out of sympathy ...

I was wondering doing something like going up to her and while on my knees and just talking to her regularly , so if I suddenly get signals that she wants me to go , it will be easy ...

What do you think ????
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Do something! If there's an available seat next to them just say something like "Is this seat taken?" as you drop into the seat.
 

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I saw two chicks chatting away
and I was sitting alone in a cafe
so i thought i'll sit next to them
this is what i said

Me: "Hi, do u mind if I sit here?"
Them: Sure
Me: as long as you dont touch
them: (smile)
Me: I was sitting alone and getting lonely so I thought I could do with some company.
 

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ROFL

assuming that isnt his name, I can imagine him blurting that out and then trying to explain :D

"hey, this seat isnt taken is it?" *already starting to sit down*

"I was getting bored with sitting by myself so I thought I'd come over to see how exciting and spontaneous you two are"

I've done that before and all three of us went ice-skating after we'd finished up in subway. Maybe it was a one-hit-wonder, but one of the chicks was uber-cool and really fun to hang around with. No chemistry though :/

I'll have to try it out a few times and see how it goes.
 

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you think too much....trust me.

I used to think like that...I psyched myself out.

I would suggest the 3 second rule. do it and make some mistakes and then you will eventually come up with a system that works for you.

good luck
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by DJBen
"I was getting bored with sitting by myself so I thought I'd come over to see how exciting and spontaneous you two are"
Great line!
 
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