"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Approaching a group of two at a cafe

KnightRyder

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How would you do this approach ?

You see your target sitting with her friend having a coffee at a public cafe . They are sitting with themselves only and the Target shows some signs of interests you know she will respond to your questions because you had a brief conversation 1 -2 minute prior about her job, but how do you join them ?


WHat can I say to join them ??

Do I just say "May I join you ? " Sounds so GAY, they might say "yes" out of sympathy ...

I was wondering doing something like going up to her and while on my knees and just talking to her regularly , so if I suddenly get signals that she wants me to go , it will be easy ...

What do you think ????
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Do something! If there's an available seat next to them just say something like "Is this seat taken?" as you drop into the seat.
 

alphamale1

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I saw two chicks chatting away
and I was sitting alone in a cafe
so i thought i'll sit next to them
this is what i said

Me: "Hi, do u mind if I sit here?"
Them: Sure
Me: as long as you dont touch
them: (smile)
Me: I was sitting alone and getting lonely so I thought I could do with some company.
 

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ROFL

assuming that isnt his name, I can imagine him blurting that out and then trying to explain :D

"hey, this seat isnt taken is it?" *already starting to sit down*

"I was getting bored with sitting by myself so I thought I'd come over to see how exciting and spontaneous you two are"

I've done that before and all three of us went ice-skating after we'd finished up in subway. Maybe it was a one-hit-wonder, but one of the chicks was uber-cool and really fun to hang around with. No chemistry though :/

I'll have to try it out a few times and see how it goes.
 

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you think too much....trust me.

I used to think like that...I psyched myself out.

I would suggest the 3 second rule. do it and make some mistakes and then you will eventually come up with a system that works for you.

good luck
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Drex

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Originally posted by DJBen
"I was getting bored with sitting by myself so I thought I'd come over to see how exciting and spontaneous you two are"
Great line!
 
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