Approaching 40, what should I do now?

[Doctor Europeo]

(get on a private jet to go to Tomorrowland in Europe as a VIP at a moment's notice)

I thought this was a theme park. I must be mixing it with Europa Park or Futuroscope. Anyways, it must be nice to have that kind of money.

The steaks were great (and less expensive than elsewhere, and of course there were throngs of mostly naked women walking around.)

Send me the location. For Steak research purposes of course.

 

[Rainman4707]

Everytime i hear content creator, it makes feel sick. Heard a couple of guys discussing this in the gym a few days ago, how their kids are glued to their phones and all they care about is likes and attention.

The guys in the gym were saying how they think their kids generation is fu**ed.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@BeExcellent "Because these girls ARE in it for $$$$"

We're ALL "in it" for something more than the person we're pursuing themselves. OP, in my view anyway, has a more basic dilemma:

He's the male equivalent of a gal who was on Maxim's Hot 100 List back in the EARLY 2000s, starting an OF page here in the present... She may generate a niche following fueled primarily by nostalgia, just as OP may attract attention as a "curio", if he continues prowling bars and nightclubs like a 21 year old who's recently discovered Scotch/had his hair cut by an actual barber for the first time, rather than Fantastic Sams

The novelty of such acts inevitably sputters out faster than Dice Clay's, by time '96 or so rolled around

 

[BeExcellent]

Lol @Doctor Europeo alas it closed some time ago. Was Greek mafia run (was my understanding from my ex husband) and the GM (who had unsurprisingly wifed up one of the girls -Facepalm-) was since divorced & got a Five Guys franchise location somewhere in the US Midwest.....

Tomorrowland is a huge outdoor rave.....thousands of people. All the biggests DJs have played it, from David Guetta and Tiesto on down. They have had it in Belgium, Ibizia and I think it is actually going on in LA next weekend....hubby & I thought about going, but I'm kinda over hanging out with a bunch of people who are rolling.......I still love EDM but rambuctious crowds, not so much.

I met OP 5 or 6 years ago. He was fit, successful, handsome, high end car, and infatuated with younger service industry girls. He is plenty attractive so long as he's stayed in shape, which I expect he has, and can afford what he's been doing....but he's also a very smart professional in a prestigious field.....a field, like our dear moderator, that women want to lock down.....but my guess is (and its a guess) that he's pursued by gold diggers and women who want the title of his wife possibly more than they want to be wth him....and I think he's going to want a woman with an intellect over just a hot woman. So maybe I'm way off base.....but I think he is experiencing understandable frustration fishing in the current pond.

 

[intricate design]

cheap steaks lol I laugh, but sadly even going to get a burger and fries is such a rip off today that I don’t even like restaurants anymore. I mean I went and got an omelet and potatoes at a greasy diner and had a glass of house wine the bill was over $65 just for me

If I had hundreds of millions I would not go to goofy public strip clubs full of skanks and crack hoes. I’d go to elite and discrete private clubs with membership fees and other celebrities. I bet they have young women that cost a pretty penny

I’m not one to ever get escorts but I viewed some ads in my city and the young women are asking like $3000 per hour. It’s ridiculous. It’s no wonder why young women all have perfectly curated wardrobes and live high lifestyles spending money left and right

 

[plumber]

The problem though is, when you bring money into the equation, how do you prevent yourself from being just the older guy who utilizes assets vs being the guy that girl's just want to use to experience nice things that their 21 yo dudes don't have access to.

Let's be honest, most of these girls have rotations and rosters too. They have the broke dude who's great in bed, the rich guy who takes them to restaurants and bottle service, maybe the emotional tampon guy that listens to their problems, etc..

does it matter. really... who cares what others think. do what is fun and makes you happy AND can be sustained.

if you really want true love, you can have it.

just priority what you want and takes steps toward that goal.

the age old formulas will work. we sometimes laff at them or makes jokes but they work.

formula one. be power wise far above the environment. then be decent, calm, kind, in shape, and final with any competitors. In that model you will have younger ladies fall in love with you in batches.

formula two. Be self sufficient, very physically fit, have a performance skill such as sing, dance, fight, .....
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we get confused about formula one. the type of power needed is when your greater than ten to one vs your competitors. meaning they always fold instead of fight. this is environment controlled. a man with 10 million liquid cash in a city with others that are the same is not special and has no power. same man in a city that others have 500.00 or less liquid cash is very powerful. the ability to make life changing decisions for others is power. when you have this power you will have love. just have to filter the applicants. the dynamic for love to be is in place. its not the money.. it is the power. all the game ideas are simply trying to present power without having it. actually having it always works. also need to understand. its possible to have vast wealth and no power as others hold the power.....

 

[BaronOfHair]

So as you become older and older you are just going to keep going to the club and act like Peter Pan in Neverland?

Long ago, this very topic was addressed, kinda sorta

Remaining an eternal lad SOUNDS divine in the abstract... Then you realize the costs of not attaining manhood

 

[Bingo-Player]

Club girls are a fun time but offer next to no substance or stability

This is true in your 20's , 30's 40's whatever age you meet them they are not suitable for anything more than drunken nights and stupid decisions

Naturally in your 20's you don't really care you are also out for a good time , the same can mostly be said for your 30's too depending on your outlook on life and how much energy you have

By 40 its just not an environment you can spend any serious amount of time in without

A) feeling very old

B) being unfulfilled

C) Being depressed

Personally at 34 I already know my clubbing days are pretty much over I knew when I was about 30

But about 2 years ago I gave it one last hurrah when I moved to a new city , was fun but after 6 months of it I was financially , mentally and physically exhausted

I'll still have the odd night out here and there but in terms of that being the main place I meet people and being a centre point of my life- no chance

I just see myself trying to build more meaningful social connections , travelling and immersing new cultures and maybe trying to structure my own community around my own believes

Theres a bloke in my city who runs like these dinner parties and yacht parties aiming to bring similar minded people together

I think thats a bit more classy and cool