Approaching 40, what should I do now?

[Knight of Roses]

My 30's were great, lots of fun, but many of the same venues are starting to get boring now. Strip Clubs and regular nightclubs with bottle service; thats usually how I have met most of the younger women I prefer to date.

But it seems now that most of the guys who are popular in these scenes are content creators, Instagram/Tik Tok dudes. Never had any problems with them, many of them are friendly and I've grown to know them over the past few years. Regardless, doing things like that, or creating videos as a 40 year old male with a high functioning career has never interested me.

So curious, to those that are in this age bracket or older. What have you done? Do you choose other venues now? Private Poker parties, yacht clubs, Happy hours at high end restaurants? Have you been scaling back on the partying in exchange for more focus on career / fitness / health ?

Thanks

 

[BaronOfHair]

@Knight of Roses "But it seems now that most of the guys who are popular in these scenes are content creators, Instagram/Tik Tok dudes"

Yeah, while perhaps none of us ever truly "grow up", the time in which we can successfully masquerade as kids is fleeting. You're reached THAT point, so consider yourself fortunate:

Most of us hit 35 or so, look around the strip joints and nightclubs, then recognize: "I'm entirely too old to be doing this sh-t now, at least in the same way I did at 21"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't do any of that...I stay away from fake people like the plague. Was forced to spend plenty of time around them when I was was DJing at clubs and at the after parties, have no desire to do so of my own free will.

At age 40 I'm wondering why you haven't outgrown this instead of trying to hold onto it.

 

[Solomon]

I don't do any of that...I stay away from fake people like the plague. Was forced to spend plenty of time around them when I was was DJing at clubs and at the after parties, have no desire to do so of my own free will.

At age 40 I'm wondering why you haven't outgrown this instead of trying to hold onto it.

Not to pile on but OP if you wanna meet young women, I recommend fashion events, I've been talking about them on the forum for years. You get a nice suite, and the ratio is 3:. Only problem with Fashion events they are only seasonal unless you're in a major city i.e. LA, NYC etc

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Not to pile on but OP if you wanna meet young women, I recommend fashion events, I've been talking about them on the forum for years. You get a nice suite, and the ratio is 3:. Only problem with Fashion events they are only seasonal unless you're in a major city i.e. LA, NYC etc

I'd recommend joining some hiking/outdoor groups...usually lots of younger people there and many times women with their friends.

Obviously only if you like that sort of things tho.

 

[The Duke]

My 30's were great, lots of fun, but many of the same venues are starting to get boring now. Strip Clubs and regular nightclubs with bottle service; thats usually how I have met most of the younger women I prefer to date.

But it seems now that most of the guys who are popular in these scenes are content creators, Instagram/Tik Tok dudes. Never had any problems with them, many of them are friendly and I've grown to know them over the past few years. Regardless, doing things like that, or creating videos as a 40 year old male with a high functioning career has never interested me.

So curious, to those that are in this age bracket or older. What have you done? Do you choose other venues now? Private Poker parties, yacht clubs, Happy hours at high end restaurants? Have you been scaling back on the partying in exchange for more focus on career / fitness / health ?

Thanks

Welcome back. It's been a while.

I got away from that scene and focused on country dance bars, concerts, and high end bars where the movers and shakers mingle . The people got a lot more real.

 

[Knight of Roses]

I don't do any of that...I stay away from fake people like the plague. Was forced to spend plenty of time around them when I was was DJing at clubs and at the after parties, have no desire to do so of my own free will.

At age 40 I'm wondering why you haven't outgrown this instead of trying to hold onto it.

I mean, what you want me to do? Not to come off rude but I dont find most women past age 26 attractive. Some exceptions exist but for most part, no. I like sleeping exclusively in the 20-24 age range. These venues are where those women are at, so thats why I've stuck to those scenes.

Yes I know, some of you may brag about how you can pick up a girl at a Farmer's market or at Target shopping. Sadly, I don't have those skills.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Sadly, I don't have those skills.

May be time to develop them

 

[Lauel]

I mean, what you want me to do? Not to come off rude but I dont find most women past age 26 attractive. Some exceptions exist but for most part, no. I like sleeping exclusively in the 20-24 age range. These venues are where those women are at, so thats why I've stuck to those scenes.

Yes I know, some of you may brag about how you can pick up a girl at a Farmer's market or at Target shopping. Sadly, I don't have those skills.

Not being rude. I am not a westerner, so I don't understand all of this.
But: Why did you not get married? Isn't it normal to get married by early 30s, have kids and enjoy?
If people don't then, isn't old age life difficult and lonely?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I mean, what you want me to do? Not to come off rude but I dont find most women past age 26 attractive. Some exceptions exist but for most part, no. I like sleeping exclusively in the 20-24 age range. These venues are where those women are at, so thats why I've stuck to those scenes.

Yes I know, some of you may brag about how you can pick up a girl at a Farmer's market or at Target shopping. Sadly, I don't have those skills.

So as you become older and older you are just going to keep going to the club and act like Peter Pan in Neverland?

What's your plan once your results from the club start drying up as you get older and your dating range needs to keep climbing? Become a monk? A priest?

I mean everyone has to grow up at some time brother.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I'd recommend joining some hiking/outdoor groups...usually lots of younger people there and many times women with their friends.

Obviously only if you like that sort of things tho.

Sounds good in theory but most women who joint these types of groups are not hot.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Not being rude. I am not a westerner, so I don't understand all of this.

You need to educate yourself as to why marriage is a declining institution in the West. It's a complicated subject.

 

[Lauel]

You need to educate yourself as to why marriage is a declining institution in the West. It's a complicated subject.

I did, actually. Reading news, historical books, new statistics on body counts, cheating, divorce rates. Where I live all of these are minimum (for now), and people don't really go beyond 30 unmarried without kids.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I did, actually. Reading news, historical books, new statistics on body counts, cheating, divorce rates. Where I live all of these are minimum (for now), and people don't really go beyond 30 unmarried without kids.

Where do you live?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sounds good in theory but most women who joint these types of groups are not hot.

They look pretty good to me, have you actually been to any?

 

[Lauel]

Where do you live?

Somewhere in Asia.

 

[Snag87]

I mean, what you want me to do? Not to come off rude but I dont find most women past age 26 attractive. Some exceptions exist but for most part, no. I like sleeping exclusively in the 20-24 age range. These venues are where those women are at, so thats why I've stuck to those scenes.

Yes I know, some of you may brag about how you can pick up a girl at a Farmer's market or at Target shopping. Sadly, I don't have those skills.

I’m happy to say my attraction has changed. I used to only find women 19-25 attractive. Now that I’m approaching 40 my attraction has expanded to 28-29. Gives me far more options.

 

[MatureDJ]

My 30's were great, lots of fun, but many of the same venues are starting to get boring now. Strip Clubs and regular nightclubs with bottle service; thats usually how I have met most of the younger women I prefer to date.

So you've been dating strippers?

 

[MatureDJ]

Somewhere in Asia.

What's the going bar-fine where you're at?

 

[Foe]

I hit the club scene in my 30's, hit the pub scene in my early 40's and funnily enough I'm hitting the yacht club now that I'm getting into my later 40's. I go out less now, Ive picked up plenty and Im not really getting the results I used to so now I tend to only do it every now and again. Online dating still works for me, so thats my main pipeline.

You tend to adjust depending on your return on investment I guess. One night stands get pretty same same after a while, at least for me.