"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Approaches
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
One downside -- it gives the impression that you try to MUCH to meet or get a girl. "The last pretty girl I talked to...."
It really depends on the girl, if she is a serious person (like me) or an "easy" (or easy-going), etc.
Overall, its good
My approach has been underestimated, however, untarnished over time!
Kyle: Hi
*Crickets Chirping...*
HB: ...Hi (confused look rolleyes:
)[THE "DJ" RESPONSE]
Kyle: The last pretty girl I tried to talk to didn't....umm...(looks at floor then stares into girl's eyes) say hi ---- or
Kyle: My name Kyle.... and go on from there
ShizamDaMan
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"Hey, what's up?"
It's not so much what you say as it is how you say it. I've never been one to use pick up lines/canned routines. It just doesn't feel natural, and if things don't go how you want them to it's hard to recover. If you're confident and collected, most anything you say will be just fine.
Strike up a conversation with the HB you're eyeing. She'll appreciate you trying to have an intelligent discussion with her rather than immediately hinting you want to blow her mind in the sack (this comes a little later
). If you need to learn how to be a better conversationalist, then there is ample material in the DJ Bible."She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Don Juan
best app: i made a #close with not saying any word. it was a both side attraction suddenly
nice