"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
One downside -- it gives the impression that you try to MUCH to meet or get a girl. "The last pretty girl I talked to...."
It really depends on the girl, if she is a serious person (like me) or an "easy" (or easy-going), etc.
Overall, its good
My approach has been underestimated, however, untarnished over time!
Kyle: Hi
*Crickets Chirping...*
HB: ...Hi (confused look rolleyes:
)[THE "DJ" RESPONSE]
Kyle: The last pretty girl I tried to talk to didn't....umm...(looks at floor then stares into girl's eyes) say hi ---- or
Kyle: My name Kyle.... and go on from there
ShizamDaMan
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"Hey, what's up?"
It's not so much what you say as it is how you say it. I've never been one to use pick up lines/canned routines. It just doesn't feel natural, and if things don't go how you want them to it's hard to recover. If you're confident and collected, most anything you say will be just fine.
Strike up a conversation with the HB you're eyeing. She'll appreciate you trying to have an intelligent discussion with her rather than immediately hinting you want to blow her mind in the sack (this comes a little later
). If you need to learn how to be a better conversationalist, then there is ample material in the DJ Bible."How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Don Juan
best app: i made a #close with not saying any word. it was a both side attraction suddenly
nice