"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Approaches for the gym

thissean

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anyone know any good opens for a gym setting? A lot of cute girls go work out, yet I don't know any good opens for this situation. I go twice a week and there's no doubt that I'll see someone I like. Generally I don't have a problem walking up and saying something, but if they're in the middle of running on the tredmill or situps I don't like to disrupt them. I was thinking maybe when they are stretching?

Have any experiences that you can share or any good opener?
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damian

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I find it really easy to pull girls into a casual conversation I'm having with my workout buddy. Usually, just asking a sideways question in a friendly way to a girl that happens to be working out near you works fine. The girls that have headphones on are rather fun to open up.

There's a PU101 routine that involves just mouthing words at a girl, pointing to your own ear until she takes the headphones out. You then ask her, "Do those work?"...."I mean, do those headphones really keep people from talking to you?" A nice joking manner helps a lot. You can segway into talking about how you were looking for an mp3 player because people kept bothering you while you were working out. If you still have a girl hooked after that, it's just a matter of smooth talking.

-Damian
 

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Oh! cool open :D I'll give it a try. Normally girls do have headphones. What happens though if they have none?

And sometimes when im running, there are other tredmills open all around but they pick the one next to me, would this be an IOI? what would be a cleaver open? obviously im running and cannot say much x_x
 

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thissean said:
Oh! cool open :D I'll give it a try. Normally girls do have headphones. What happens though if they have none?

And sometimes when im running, there are other tredmills open all around but they pick the one next to me, would this be an IOI? what would be a cleaver open? obviously im running and cannot say much x_x
"Wanna race?"

:)

paypal me your payments :D
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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nando

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some girls with headphones do want to get approached, it is not an absolute rule.
 

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Friend_ofa_Friend said:
if they were open to meeting guys I don't think they would wear the headphones, sounds like a clear no-no

anyway, don't your gyms play music anyway?? why would a girl need headphones?
same reason why everyone else has headphones on...they want to hear their own music and they want it louder so they can get in the zone.
 

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Ken785 said:
same reason why everyone else has headphones on...they want to hear their own music and they want it louder so they can get in the zone.
Yes but funny how most girls wear them a lot of the time whereas the guys don't? That's a major clue right there lol.

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