"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Approaches for the gym

thissean

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anyone know any good opens for a gym setting? A lot of cute girls go work out, yet I don't know any good opens for this situation. I go twice a week and there's no doubt that I'll see someone I like. Generally I don't have a problem walking up and saying something, but if they're in the middle of running on the tredmill or situps I don't like to disrupt them. I was thinking maybe when they are stretching?

Have any experiences that you can share or any good opener?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Damian

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I find it really easy to pull girls into a casual conversation I'm having with my workout buddy. Usually, just asking a sideways question in a friendly way to a girl that happens to be working out near you works fine. The girls that have headphones on are rather fun to open up.

There's a PU101 routine that involves just mouthing words at a girl, pointing to your own ear until she takes the headphones out. You then ask her, "Do those work?"...."I mean, do those headphones really keep people from talking to you?" A nice joking manner helps a lot. You can segway into talking about how you were looking for an mp3 player because people kept bothering you while you were working out. If you still have a girl hooked after that, it's just a matter of smooth talking.

-Damian
 

thissean

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Oh! cool open :D I'll give it a try. Normally girls do have headphones. What happens though if they have none?

And sometimes when im running, there are other tredmills open all around but they pick the one next to me, would this be an IOI? what would be a cleaver open? obviously im running and cannot say much x_x
 

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thissean said:
Oh! cool open :D I'll give it a try. Normally girls do have headphones. What happens though if they have none?

And sometimes when im running, there are other tredmills open all around but they pick the one next to me, would this be an IOI? what would be a cleaver open? obviously im running and cannot say much x_x
"Wanna race?"

:)

paypal me your payments :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nando

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some girls with headphones do want to get approached, it is not an absolute rule.
 

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Friend_ofa_Friend said:
if they were open to meeting guys I don't think they would wear the headphones, sounds like a clear no-no

anyway, don't your gyms play music anyway?? why would a girl need headphones?
same reason why everyone else has headphones on...they want to hear their own music and they want it louder so they can get in the zone.
 

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Ken785 said:
same reason why everyone else has headphones on...they want to hear their own music and they want it louder so they can get in the zone.
Yes but funny how most girls wear them a lot of the time whereas the guys don't? That's a major clue right there lol.

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