"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Approached girl again (unknowingly)

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I approached this girl whom I didn't recognize despite approaching her about 2 weeks ago.

(I saw her while standing in line to get my food. I made EC but she didn't. I approached anyway. At this point I had no idea it was the same girl)

Me:Hey what's up
Her: Hi (smile)
Me: What are you getting? (She was waiting for food)
Her: Pizza
Me: Cool
Her: I know you from somewhere ( She said it like a girl doing a pick-up line on some guy. I was shocked by this. I was thinking "wow, she actually likes me, and is doing the work conversationally")
Me: Oh (Looking at her like "sure...whatever"...but at the same time thinking deep to where I might have met her before)
Me: Where are you from?
Her: [Her city]
Me:[My city (very far from hers)]
Me: Where did we meet?
Her: What's your major?
Me [my major]
Her: Oh, that's right, I met you in the library. (she said it as she had met me in the library associated with me department. I have never seen her there)

(At this point, I start thinking maybe it is that girl)

Me:Which library?
Her: [Names the library]

(At this point, I know it's her and am shocked and embarressed as hell. I was thinking that she probably thinks I'm stalker her. So I go off and act AFC)

Me: Oh, that's you!?!?
Me: Wow, you look totally different!
Me: Your the one who's boyfriend is a graduate student in my department (she told me this last time I approached her)
Me: Didn't you have glasses on that day?
Her: Yeah
Me:Wow, you look like a different person!
Me: I had no idea it was you (I'm basically saying "I'm sorry for approaching you")
Me: All right, well have a good one. Bye

Then I walk off. So embarressed too. And I walked up to her with so much confidence . I even got good eye contact from her until I realized that I really ( I say "really" because as I said before I thought she was BS'ing when she said we had met before) have talked to her before and began remembering her.


Analysis?

I should have just stayed calm and acted naturally...even went with what I thought was going on ( she might have even purposely did that)?
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Your the one who brought the boyfriend up. I never mention them, if she's not interested she still wont be interested, if she wants to flirt altought having boyfriend, let her, why not? Having a good contact list may be good, and someday some of them may wake up and feel in the mood to give you a call, and you decide at that point if u're up to.
 
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Static, thanks for the laugh, you are over-dj-ing:D

You approached the same girl twice - I'm still laughing :D that never happened to me before but I see how you would be embarassed. At least your taste in women is consistent (even without glasses):D
 

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Haha I know the feeling :p

Once I approached this girl at a bar, was a friend of a friend or something. I was pretty drunk but I got her nr etc.... Next week I go down the stairs of the same bar and this really pretty blonde walks up the stairs and gives me a biiiig smile and I'm like wohoo I gotta hit that one up later... Which I did and then I remembered who she was :p Rofl had her nr and everything haha.
 
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